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Topic: Really interesting convo

heartache101
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Posted: 11:41 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013

So I have a married girl friend and I asked her if her husband was having an internet affair what would you do?
Take the computer away divorce what?
She said I would look the other way!
WOW really? She said yes after being married 35 years what else would I do. Wow is all I said.

There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3202 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana

ajsmom
♀ 17460
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Posted: 11:45 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013

My guess?

He's done it before.

AJ's MOM

Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!

Posts: 21160 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back

OldCow18
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Posted: 11:53 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013

I have to assume there is no love there then. Maybe I'm way off base, but if theirs is a marraige of convenience perhaps she would look away. If this person was her best friend and partner and there was love, how could she look away?

Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13

Posts: 620 | Registered: Jun 2013

EvenKeel
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Posted: 11:57 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013

He's done it before.

Yep - that is my guess too. People usually have VERY strong opinions on the subject. Her response means she has either BTDT or is in a bubble and has no clue how much pain it would cause to be blindsided with an A.

Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.

Posts: 2352 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa

heartache101
♀ 26465
Member # 26465

Posted: 12:02 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013

Oh he cheated early on in there marriage physically. She said if it was internet atleast it isnt in person.
Like what? Dont ya think it will move to that. Oh well. I told her I could not live like that. I could not believe her answer. She lost a leg about 7 years ago I am wondering if she lost some self worth?

There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3202 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana

maxandsen
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Member # 37173

Posted: 2:46 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013

I don't think any of us knew or know what we would do until it happens

I always said I would D but here I am trying to R

Me: 40
FWH: 51
Married 12 years
DDay: Jan 2012
A: One year
S: 6 weeks before he pulled his head out
R: March 2012
On the bumpy road to happy

Posts: 70 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: USA

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