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confused52204 posted 10/29/2013 12:41 PM

This is my 2nd time here. Divorced my first husband. I have a 6 yo d from that marriage. Now this time I just baught a house w my bf about 1 yr ago. A week later I found put he was post ads on craigslist for 2 years of our 3 yr relationship. At that time I decided to make it work. We tried for about a year. I just can't move on from it. He was posting for both men and women. I read each post thr ur burned into my brain. At the last lie I told him I was done. I will give him back the downpayment he put into the house. He is not accepting this at all. Now il having 2nd thoughts about what to do. Had this happened to anyone?

confused615 posted 10/29/2013 13:32 PM

Fuck him.

He has been lying for a very long time. You have known this. I think it's why you have been in limbo. That, and I think this was truly a dealbreaker for you. And that's ok.

Don't get hoovered back in. Read the 180. Detach. be strong...you *can* do this!

StillLivin posted 10/29/2013 14:07 PM

OMGosh I'm soooo sorry!
(((confused)))
I don't know what else to say.

StillLivin posted 10/29/2013 14:07 PM

ooops techology double posted.

[This message edited by StillLivin at 2:08 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)]

confused52204 posted 10/29/2013 15:09 PM

Has anyone's WS begged and pleaded for a new beginning after u hit them w the " we r over" card.

Williesmom posted 10/29/2013 15:17 PM

Yup. My Wxh begged me 18 months after our divorce was final. I walked away from him lying in my driveway sobbing.

My thought is that he had many many chances to do right by me, and he didn't. He has now found religion because I'm "done"? Fuck him - he doesn't get to decide when I'm done. I do.

In your case, he has had a year to be a stand up guy and treat you like you deserve to be treated. It's a control thing on his part. He's just trying to control you and the situation.

I'm sorry.

confused52204 posted 10/29/2013 15:48 PM

That's the way I c it! He has repeat lied to me. Now since I'm done he will do anything. When he should have done anything a year ago to not get us to this point. Now I feel guilty....

confused52204 posted 10/29/2013 21:40 PM

Did u still love ur WS when u decided to make the jump to move on e ur life? I guess that's where I'm stuck. I love him so much but hate him so much for doing this. Life isn't that difficult is it ? I mean life was so bad for him that he picked craigslist adds over me? Wtf! Half his stuff is packed. Guess we r halfway dine and now I'm sad...all while he is texting me daily trying to make me c how much he loves me and will never hurt me..,at times its convincing.....:(

confused52204 posted 10/29/2013 21:41 PM

Did u still love ur WS when u decided to make the jump to move on e ur life? I guess that's where I'm stuck. I love him so much but hate him so much for doing this. Life isn't that difficult is it ? I mean life was so bad for him that he picked craigslist adds over me? Wtf! Half his stuff is packed. Guess we r halfway dine and now I'm sad...all while he is texting me daily trying to make me c how much he loves me and will never hurt me..,at times its convincing.....:(

nowiknow23 posted 10/29/2013 21:44 PM

..all while he is texting me daily trying to make me c how much he loves me and will never hurt me.
Words are cheap. Absolutely worthless. Especially when they are such clear lies. He will never hurt you? What the hell does he think he's been doing?

Actions, confused. Actions over time. But you know that already, right? ((((hugs))))

confused52204 posted 10/30/2013 13:19 PM

Bumping....trying to find words of wisdom...

Kierst13 posted 10/30/2013 13:27 PM

He has had a year to get his crap together and be the man you need him to be. He is manipulating you to get his way; don't fall for it.

Williesmom posted 10/30/2013 14:05 PM

I did still love my Wxh when I made the decision to walk away and be done with him.

My loving him was never the issue.

I decided that I also had to love myself.

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