associate with OW or OW's BS?
My FWH had multiple AP's, some of whom my kids know well. We told them immediately about the "1st" OW I discovered on my first Dday (she was not a close friend, but an acquaintance), but we did not tell them about the other AP's, because of the close friendships with these OW (one was a next door neighbor) and their children. Confusing, I know.
My kids are teens. They are still close with some of the AP's kids, and they share activities. We recently moved, but until that happened, one OW still drove one of my kids to a regular activity with their teen. Gross, I know, but we felt trapped by not wanting to reveal the additional A's.
Today, one of my teens is interested in joining an activity that would bring them into regular contact with the first OW's BS, and the OW on occasion. My teen really wants to be in the activity, but doesn't want any interaction with the OW. The OW's BS and OW are in charge of this activity, so they won't be going anywhere.
Curious what the general thought is on this situation. I'm inclined to support her in this activity, because it is not her fault her Dad had an A, and it may cause the AP and her BS a lot of discomfort to have my teen there, see her name on rosters, etc.
I'm looking for your thoughts because I'm not sure if I'm thinking about this correctly. As I allowed my kids to associate with the OW's they don't know about for so long, I may be somewhat desensitized to this situation, and if it is a completely "BAD IDEA", please say so.