Sorry it's so long -- but do be sure to read the very end.
First-- thank you to everyone that sent me mojo, well wishes, and good thoughts. I re-read that thread several times in the court parking lot before going inside. I needed to feel like there were people in my corner because I was very nervous. Thank you.
I was waiting outside the courtroom on the one freaking bench in the lobby. Of course ex-shat comes up with stripper-whore.
Yes, he brought stripper whore.
Now, I would love for you all to get this mental image: I am dressed professionally - pencil skirt, heels, my favorite shade of blue button up fitted shirt. Her bleach bottle blond hair is teased out..she's in tight jeans and tight top...her make-up is all sorts of whore. She looks like white trash. He has a pair of jeans on with a rip in the ass pocket. He's wearing a black, long-sleeved t-shirt. I cannot imagine that the judge's subconcious was not informed by this picture.
Anyway, these fuckers sit down on the bench too. Sigh.
My lawyer arrives a couple of minutes later and she takes me to a conference room. Her face is clearly baffled that he is actually showing up and that he is actually going to attempt to present an argument.
Ok, so we go into the courtroom and the court recorder (reporter?) has to tell stripper whore to go sit back in the gallery since she is not a party to the case. Poor girl was confused as to how to get through the swinging gate. Court recorder's face was like, OMG
Anyway, I get to testify. Pretty straight forward...L asks me leading questions so the answer is just, "Yes."
And then ex-shat gets a chance to ask me questions. "Oh my fucking god," I was thinking to myself, and then I visualized all of you sitting around stripper whore saying, "FTG and the stripper-whore he rode in on."
He starts asking me about deposits made before our D decree. My lawyer objects...he tries two more times to do this. My lawyer objects again. The judge has to explain to him that this hearing is governed by the orders in the decree...anything before the decree has NO BEARING on this case. This would become a recurring theme for the next fucking hour.
So then this fucker starts asking me about child support deposits he made after the decree but before he had CS through the state set up. He was trying to get me to agree that those deposits were pre-payment of the tax refund
Yeah, nothing there buddy.
Then he starts trying to get me to agree that he had the intent to pay me and clear his debts.
I actually had no idea what to say to this. So the two times he was trying to get me to say this, I said, "You said you would pay me."
At that point, my L got to question me again and she entered into evidence the text from April 2013 (well after these CS deposits he claims were pre-payments of the refund) where he says that he is about to bring to balance Teslet's CS (he was behind by a few months at that point) and pay me 1/2 the tax refund.
Ex-shat claims this text is out of context and part of a larger dialogue The judge cuts him off and asks if he has any more questions for me. He says no and then he takes the stand.
He tries again to bring up the deposits BEFORE the D...at least 2 or 3 more times this happens. He also said that we were divorced in Sept of 2012...it was actually on his birthday in November of 2012. The judge actually takes a few minutes to point out the true date of the D. The court recorder looks at me like, "oh my fucking god."
The judge then asks if he has anything else to add. He starts pontificating how he said he would never leave me 'languishing.' That he always pays his debts. That even when this came up that he offered to give me a couple of thousand dollars if I needed it, that I just had to call him.
There were a lot of other strange, contradictory, non-sensical statements. I can't remember them at this point...the ones above were the ones that stuck out to me.
Judge says he's taking it under advisement and will send his decision. L told me not to worry about that...she says that often times a judge will do this when one of the parties is unrepresented and they are concerned about the reaction to an immediate decision.
I'm pretty damn sure that this is falling my way.
My brother just called me, he said out of curiosity he checked stripper whore's facebook. Ex-shat proposed to her this weekend. She's got a pretty little ring. She posted pictures of my son with the caption, "My future step-son."
I can't fucking believe that he actually proposed to her
This dude is the stupidest mother fucker alive.