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 soveryweary (original poster member #32265) posted at 10:10 AM on Wednesday, October 30th, 2013

I'm soon to be divorced, but came across a little gem while the cheater is at our timeshare vacationing.

He sent a Linkedin message to a woman who a few years ago sent him pics of her on her vibrator as a "birthday"' gift.

Continued inappropriate emails, texts.

She recently married.

He messaged her something about how beautiful her picture is, how she should be there with him in Cabo.

xo,

The Cheater

She replied that thanks for the compliment, you never know what the future holds!1 Then she proceeds to tell him about her new job.

xo,

The Stinky Sleeze

Now, I don't believe they are actively in an affair, THIS MINUTE, but I believe the messages are highly inappropriate.

I am just thinking of cluing in her husband of the inappropriateness of it all.

Am I way out of line here?

Its so funny, when I saw them all I could do was shake my head and think what a pathetic, pathetic piece of shit her is. I'm not even bummed or sad. It just makes me so happy I am moving out Saturday!!!

Divorced 1/3/14 after 31 years of marriage.

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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 10:16 AM on Wednesday, October 30th, 2013

I think that a screen capture sent discreetly to her BH (and yes, he is a BH. She's screwing around) isn't a bad idea.

On the one hand, you want to be free of anything having to do with your STBX (for example why are you still checking up on him?) but at the same time this man deserves to know that his marriage is in danger, if not already destroyed by this chick.

I sure as hell would have appreciated it if someone dropped me a note.

(((soveryweary)))

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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MrsDoubtfire ( member #24786) posted at 10:16 AM on Wednesday, October 30th, 2013

Inappropriate chat alert!

By informing the spouse you may avert a potential flirting/ inappropriate exchange from turning into EA from becoming a PA.

I say go for it.

BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now become†

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 soveryweary (original poster member #32265) posted at 12:13 PM on Wednesday, October 30th, 2013

I know JRAZZ, and I don't know what compelled me to check once again.

Maybe because he sent me an almost exact same message???

It only reinforced what a piece of shit he really is!!!

And Mrs. D, thanks. I am just disgusted that he just doesn't care that these women he pursues are married. Makes my skin crawl.

[This message edited by soveryweary at 6:15 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)]

Divorced 1/3/14 after 31 years of marriage.

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