honestly, I think most of this is a load of bull.
I can say for sure that love in a marriage is conditional. Don't cheat, treat me right, and I'll love you.
My love for my children is unconditional...
the stuff about circling the hurt. Well this person really doesn't understand trauma. I see it as moving forward in circles.
Forgiveness: I haven't forgiven my husband. Doesn't mean I have bitterness, rage and resentment all the time. i think forgiveness is overrated and that living with something that may be "good enough" is what a lot of married people do.