Me: BS (43)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(50)
My MC told me once that pain, stress, and the like all 'reside' in the same "buckets" in our psyche / pain centers, irregardless of what caused them.
So if I have a very stressful week at work, that gets 'dumped' into the same 'bucket' that already holds the A stress, and it can churn up /overflow and become overwhelming. If I get pissed off because of something that happens on the drive home, that anger goes into the same bucket where the A anger is, and so on.
Her point in telling me this was to illustrate that while scenarios may be totally unrelated, my response(s)to them / the effects they have are and can be. Because we're not wired to keep trauma segregated by event; it all hits the same raw spots..
So when I feel myself getting stressed, angry, etc. I try my best to step back and really look at WHAT exactly is going on that has me upset. Like Chicho said, "be honest as to the source of the new stress and work on that".
I don't know if I've made any sense, or been helpful.I hope i have been. What I do know is I understand how you feel. ((((((Princess))))))
D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/2013.
Divorce final 2/10/14.
Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.