Many of you know my struggles with DD18 and her NPD father.
DD18 exhibits many signs of NPD but it is confusing because her father has actively alienated her from me and projected his hatred of me onto her. Regardless, she has behaved horribly to me on many occasions involving quite a bit of theft.
The last thefts sent me reeling because I had happily welcomed her back to my home (think prodigal son), helped her emotionally and financially and at 18 she intentionally stole from me, lied to me, blamed me and tried to play all kinds of emotionally abusive games with me.
As a consequence, I asked her to move out. That killed me as she had no where to go and landed at her NPD dad's home with his live in GF. GF has no boundaries and is selfish and is actively working to install herself as DD18's mother.
DD18 has done maybe 3% of what I asked her to do for restitution and has done none of the emotional work of trying to rebuild trust or a relationship with me. In her mind I am the villian and the bad guy.
Just received a text from NPD.
I would like that DD18 stay with you 1 weekend a month at least. Prefer it to be the same one each month. Thoughts about that?
Yeah I have thought about that. NO WAY
Guess living with the kid he so royally used to get back at me isn't turning out so well with GF. LOL
However, due to the NPD I need to tred carefully in my response.
I would appreciate any thoughts or ideas.