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Newme123 (original poster member #41119) posted at 5:40 PM on Wednesday, October 30th, 2013
I just recently joined si but have been reading for months. WH and I are attempting R. Today is my 1 yr antiversary. I'm shocked and surprised that I am actually doing ok.. WH just texted me that he loved me and was thinking about me and that he was sorry this day had any significance for me. I'm just trying to stay busy so the intrusive thoughts don't creep in. My story, my wh cheated on me 5 times with 5 different ow. I didn't find out about any of it until 3 and a half years after his last ons. They were all Ons, 3 of whom he didn't even know their names. He came home 1 yr ago today and confessed to me on his lunch break. Completely out of the blue. Anyways, just kinda wanted to introduce myself and just let someone know about us. No one but our families, mc and pastor know about what we are going through. And frankly they don't understand. When I brought it up to my wh about how today might be hard for me, his initial response was that it was a day just like any other. Our mc quickly set him straight and he apologized for not getting it and said he would help me get through that day. He's trying. I have to give him credit for that.
[This message edited by Newme123 at 11:42 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)]
Me-BS 33, him-WH 31
Dday 10-30-12 the day before Halloween
Married 10 yrs
DS-14, DD-9, DS-2, DD-5m
Currently trying to R
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 5:42 PM on Wednesday, October 30th, 2013
We understand.
Welcome to SI.
Be good to yourself today. It's a long road, but you have landed at a great place for support.
Come on in and get comfortable.
(((hugs)))
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
ladies_first ( member #24643) posted at 7:22 PM on Wednesday, October 30th, 2013
You've got a remorseful spouse and an excellent MC for support.
Those two facts will serve you well in R.
You made it through your first year!
((Newme123))
"We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us." ~J. Campbell
"In the final analysis, it is your own attitude that will make or break you, not what has happened to you." ~D. Galloway
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