I am contemplating a sitter change. I stayed with the new one at the request of dd and wh (dd for her friends and wh for the money), but I need someone more flexible. Someone who can take them trick or treating or to whatever when I cant. Or can work til 8pm bc I end up leaving the office at 730 or am sent far away.
To go back to the focus of this post...so sad for the kids and parents who's kids miss out on a lot.
ETA: Taking half a day's vacation or even a full day, depending on the event, is also something else we did as well.
[This message edited by GabyBaby at 1:14 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)]
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
is that we would ask our supervisors ahead of time if we could come in early in order to leave early (or make up the time another day).
Everyone on my staff is leaving early Thursday to take kids out or be home to give out candy. Some will work through a lunch to two, some will come in early or stay late another day, some will take a couple of hours of vacation time.
The evening stuff is a little harder. Can you trade off with anyone lese in a similar situation? Is there a HS or college-aged kid who can pick them up and get them home/make a simple dinner/do homework in a pinch?
You find other ways to make it up to them. It's just part of it. We had Christmas on other days than real Christmas, We had Thanksgiving on other days than Thanksgiving, and so forth. That's just the reality of my world, and my work.
Don't feel too bad, they won't be permenantly scarred because the miss trick or treating.
My situation depends on who is my immediate boss, the time of year and when we receive our work. Tomorrows situation was a shock bc the one guy is supposed to train the other guy. He is supposed to be here.
People around here are not real friendly. Its very "if youre from around here..." or "if you have money...". Im pretty much solo. The extent of the kids social life is school and bday parties because what I have mentioned above and bc of my work hours. The only way I can see around that is a more flexible and helpful sifter. One who can step in when im stuck at work.
Eta took me couple hours fo type reply. At that time I only had 2 responses to that thread. Finishing up work now.
[This message edited by sullymeishadomi at 3:47 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)]
My job is not one where I could trade activities or hours. Only certain people are able to do my job. The boss thats leaving can sort of do it. The one coming in has to be trained. I have to do the job of both possitions til the new guy is trained.
I have dd's communion next yr. I need of two saturdays and a bit early on a friday. This I need to be there for and have requested the time off two weeks ago. Doesnt mean I will get it off.
I feel awful for the kids who miss out and their parents. Im sitting here thinking what if I was a single parent? What if I was sent to an office over a hour away (in good traffic) and scheduled to finish at 7pm?
[This message edited by sullymeishadomi at 6:44 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)]
With kids, you can generally make a celebration for them and they will enjoy it. There are often school parties that can be visited during the day. You could make a special treasure hunt for them at home to find candy. You could snuggle down with them, in costume, at the end of the day and have a pumpkin-face pizza and watch a Halloween cartoon. There are so many options, not just traditional trick or treating.
My kids know that the celebration of a holiday is what we make it, not some cookie-cutter thing that people say it has to be. I have worked on every holiday at least once, and my kids weren't harmed by that in any way.
Certain holidays, like Halloween, can fall on any day of the week, which can be difficult with jobs, school, etc. You just make do. It is all in the attitude. If you put out to the kids that it is a tragedy, it will be a tragedy. If you put out to the kids that you will do X, Y, and Z and it will be fabulous, it will be fabulous. It is the attitude of the parents that sets the tone for the kids. Don't be afraid to change things up, you could likely find something everyone enjoys much more than the traditional activities of the day.
Being a medical professional, and my sister as well we both worked holidays, weekends, etc for many years. It is only in the last few years where we have advanced our carreers enough to have normal hours and M-F jobs.
I have Celebrated Christmas The week before, on New Years Eve, and even the weekend after Thanksgiving. I get that you really can't do that with Halloween, but if they miss it this year it will make next year all the more special.
It also shows your kids that we all have responsiblities, and sometimes we have to make sacrifices for what we do.