I live in Western Kentucky, and caught my wife using my Garmin GPS Watch hidden in her vehicle. I knew exactly where she went after work for several days, what time, how fast she drove, etc.
I did not divulge how I caught her. I just told her that even though she said that she had not seen the doctor in months, I knew she had been at his house for an hour twice in the last three days and how she had gone there via back roads and driven very fast when she left both times.
She thought I had hired a PI! That watch was the best 150 bucks I ever spent!
She admitted a few days later to our children what she had done in one of the worst scenes ever.
In the town I live in, if the spouse has any kind of a job; there will be no spousal support.
My attorney sent her a questionnaire with specific questions about her relationship with the slimy doctor she used to work for and the answer to all the questions was something like " since I am withdrawing my request for spousal support, I decline to answer this question"
The adultery never came up in court and my attorney instructed me to not mention it during the trial.
We went to trial since she was delusional as well and was spurred on by the aggressive attorney she hired.
It was ugly, and I pretty much won on all counts.
Mediation for us was not that helpful. She and her lawyer were in another room and the mediator had to go back and forth which wasted time but allowed the mediator and attorneys to bill more time.
She was more delusional than hostile, but some of the items were beyond reasonable and left me bitter towards her. I had a little over a year of Child Support to pay and then I was done with her.
She did get a sizable amount of money out of my 401K, savings, etc, and I had to buy her out of her half of the house.
Fortunately, I remain debt free since I was always a good saver and a lucky investor.
Should you want to discuss, send me a PM and maybe we can message, text, or talk sometime.