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shatteredheart7 (original poster member #39734) posted at 12:42 AM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
I haven't been on here in a few days, mainly because I have found that a lot of the time reading other peoples stories makes me trigger.
Anywho, a while back I posted asking if ya'll thought I should make him sell his truck because she use to give him blow jobs in it. Well, we have been working on getting it sold and finding a new truck. I am so happy to say that we have finally found a truck and decided the hell with trying to sell his. SO, tomorrow he is taking his truck in to the dealership and trading it in on a Chevy silverado crew cab 4x4 2500HD! Sweet ass truck! I have tried all evening to talk him into letting me have the truck and him taking my car. But right now I am just so happy that damn whore house on wheels is going to be gone gone gone! I will never have to look at it again! I feel like dancing while singing at the top of my lungs!!!
Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!
TheAmazingWondertwin ( member #40769) posted at 1:01 AM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
dance dance dance!!! Congratulations!!
Just call me Wonder
If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.
The axe "forgets"- the tree remembers.
Divorced and super good with tha
2 DS- 15 and 16
DDay 1- 07-24-2013
DDay 2- June something or other 2017
Tred ( member #34086) posted at 1:05 AM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
That's great! I'm happy for you - I get it. I really do
Married: 27 years (14 @JFO) D-Day: 11/09/11"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)
ILINIA ( member #39836) posted at 1:36 AM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
Woohoo! Congrats that is huge!
SecondHelping ( member #36796) posted at 1:52 AM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
Very nice truck. I have one. Hope you are getting the Duramax diesel.
D-Day 1: Feb 1990
D-Day 2: 3 Sep 2012 (3 month EA/2 week PA)
BS 49, fWW 43 (Amibroken)
OP- Police Chief (Age 37)
M 25 Yrs, 3 Kids (17, 14, 11)
I initated the relationship at the Railway Tavern, she tried to end it at Scrap Tavern
maxandsen ( member #37173) posted at 7:50 AM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
Congrats on getting rid of the rolling trigger!!!
Make some great new memories in the new truck
Jacobell ( new member #37284) posted at 7:53 AM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
Dance your heart out
Me - BW (39)
Him - WH (40)
D-Day 10/27/2012
3 beautiful, innocent young children.
blakesteele ( member #38044) posted at 12:19 PM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
I have one of those trucks too!
Okay, I don't......but wish I did!!!!
What a great day for you guys!!!!
My wife's AP drives a very common truck for this area.....it very much is a reminder to me of her dreadful decisions and actions. But my reactions to it have changed over time.....rage, anger, vomit, disgust, sad, almost no reaction. She has not shared how she reacts to her seeing similar trucks ....but I bet she has one. She memorized his plate number because it is such a common color make and model......she never memorized my truck plate number, hardly remembers my trucks of the past...........but I digress.
To my knowledge she never gave him head in it....never had sex in it.....or in her car either.
I believe I would have given her car to the first homeless guy I saw had it had the same ties to her A as his truck had to his A. Kudos to being able to engage your mind long enough to override your heart...and keep your financial stress lower by doing so!
I would give away every dime we have to never have had adultery invited into our M.
You go girl!!!! Road trip soon!!!! And drive that rig.....a pretty girl driving a big truck is so cool!!!!!
God help us all.
[This message edited by blakesteele at 7:02 AM, October 31st (Thursday)]
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
Sadwife222 ( member #40050) posted at 12:46 PM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
Congratulations! I know how you feel. We are selling my WH's dream house because he brought her here. Small price to pay for the pain inflicted, IMO.
Me BW, Him WH (sosorry54)
DD 4/12/13
TT until 9/18/14
blakesteele ( member #38044) posted at 1:09 PM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
My wife's AP owns a second house in the country....this is where the EA went to the PA. He still owns it....is reported to be on to another woman...suspect that house smells like sex once again. I am pretty sure his wife doesn't know he uses this as his love shack as when I met with her her husbands A with my wife was an EA at that time.
That is their journey....mine is tough enough as-is.
Just chimed in cause of sad wife's house selling.
Yep, our house would be sold to the first reasonable offer had that been the case for us....kinda glad we live in town....had we lived in a remote location I am pretty sure our bedroom would have been fair game.....wedding rings never came off their fingers as there fingers enjoyed each other.
God help us all.
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
shatteredheart7 (original poster member #39734) posted at 1:29 PM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
Thanks everyone!
Second helping, unfortunately its not the duramax. I wanted it, pushed for it pretty hard, but he doesn't want a diesel. Since it will be technically his truck, I gave in.
But its still a pretty sweet truck.
Blake, I so wanted to just dump his old truck anywhere. Didn't matter where as long as I didn't have to see it. I never really liked it anyway, its a Toyota
(sorry to anyone that likes toyota
) I haven't sat in it since I found out. Which has put extra miles on my car, but I just can't. He cleaned it out last night so that it would be ready to drop off this morning. He wanted me to look in it to see if there was anything else that needed done, my answer... Burn the damn seats! And Hell yeah! I will be driving it, every chance I get!
I am a country girl, he is a city boy. It fits me better anyway.
But seriously, I agree with you 100%, I would give away everything and live in a box under a bridge to never have had to deal with this.
Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!
shatteredheart7 (original poster member #39734) posted at 1:44 PM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
Sadwife, I know how you feel. We bought our house almost 10 yrs ago. It was our dream home. I put so much work and love into it. I personally replaced the carpet and old ceramic tile with hard wood floors, I tore up all the dark woodwork and replaced it with white along with all the doors in the house. I remodeled the kitchen. I did ALL this work myself. I loved our home. He brought her here, to our bed. The bed that I had dreamed about for years before I got it. Into the room that I had surprised him by painting a special way to remind us of the ocean (where he proposed to me) while he was at work one day. We are stuck here, it is not financially possible for us to sell it right now. The home I once loved has become the house I HATE. I have tried redecorating it to try to "take it back". First thing I did was throw out the bed. The day I found out, the bed left. We slept on the floor for a week before the new bed got here. But this is a huge house so it is taking more time than I would like. So far what I have done has helped.
Good luck selling your house! I will never understand what makes them ever think that bringing the AP into our home, our marriage bed, is ok. The betrayal of an A is bad enough but the disrespect of bringing them into our personal "safe" space is on another level.
[This message edited by shatteredheart7 at 7:46 AM, October 31st (Thursday)]
Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!
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