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User Topic: XW might move away in a couple years
ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, October 30th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My XW casually mentioned that in a couple years once her new husband finishes the degree he's working on they may need to move for him to find a job.

I get that people do this sometimes and that this is a necessity, but wow... I feel like she's talking about abandoning her child.


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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cayc
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Default  Posted: 6:42 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you have joint custody? Or sole custody?

As in, she'd be abandoning DD or angling to take her with them?


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

angling to take her with them?

Do not just assume that your xw is planning to leave your dd behind. OTOH, don't 'borrow trouble' for something that may not happen since this is still a few years off.
I just dealt with something along these lines. Stbx had been inserting *I might be moving* into messages every so often. I would make clear that the kids were staying here. I gave my L the heads-up so that she wouldn't be blind-sided. And then a couple weeks ago, he announced in court that he was moving and wanted to take my youngest with him. He was told to go through the process of requesting that change. A couple of days later, his L says that stbx is now NOT moving.

And btw, you feel like she's talking about abandoning her child. Because, according to that conversation, she is. Nice, huh?


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^What gonna said. Give your L a heads up just in case. Do you have sole custody? Keep documenting who does what and when with your child. It may come in handy a few years from now.


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ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have primary custody, and it's joint legal. She has my daughter about 36 hours a week (which matches the parenting plan pretty closely). She didn't seem to want any more than that. I think she sees my daughter as someone who's fun to spend a little time with here and there but otherwise too much trouble, whether she realizes it consciously or not.


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been documenting where my daughter is since January, except for about the past 6 weeks. I'll start documenting again.


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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