"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
angling to take her with them?
Do not just assume that your xw is planning to leave your dd behind. OTOH, don't 'borrow trouble' for something that may not happen since this is still a few years off.
I just dealt with something along these lines. Stbx had been inserting *I might be moving* into messages every so often. I would make clear that the kids were staying here. I gave my L the heads-up so that she wouldn't be blind-sided. And then a couple weeks ago, he announced in court that he was moving and wanted to take my youngest with him. He was told to go through the process of requesting that change. A couple of days later, his L says that stbx is now NOT moving.
And btw, you feel like she's talking about abandoning her child. Because, according to that conversation, she is. Nice, huh?
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.