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sunsetslost posted 10/30/2013 23:03 PM

I spent 163 minutes on the phone today. I had to cancell a credit account I've had since 2001. I had to transfer a shit ton of auto payments. I drained my checking account to pay it to zero. I felt like an ass for a bit. "Why am I busting my ass to give her a house with thirty thousand dollars in equity?" I kept asking myself. I had to do this because the dumb ass finance company won't accept my proof that STBX has no ownership of the account. I woke up. I'm not giving her shit. Just six figure debt. She can have the house. I'm sacrificing money and pride for an end game. To be free. Free. My life will be so simplified. So peaceful. Me, rather than we.

Nature_Girl posted 10/30/2013 23:20 PM

(((HUGS))))

It truly is a physical effort sometimes to shift the balance in your mind.

sunsetslost posted 10/30/2013 23:31 PM

It is NG. It's exhausting. Not just the work I'm doing on the refi but the emotions are draining. But I know it's a means to freedom. Thank you

SBB posted 10/31/2013 03:09 AM

But I know it's a means to freedom.

It so is. Like cutting your way out of a brambly, viney nightmare - chopping down each vine as you move towards the light. In your case, the ocean.

Your freedom is worth so much more than you're walking away from. Trust me on this.