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cannibal posted 10/30/2013 23:27 PM

Just thought I'd through a topic out there and see what my fellow SIers thought about the idea. Me and my wwf have been discussing getting them. We have plans drawn out but have yet to follow through. How long after dday would you suggest or should I just forget about it until it is brought back up?

lilflower1000 posted 10/30/2013 23:37 PM

My husband tattooed a wedding ring on his finger w/ my name under it as a surprise while he was trying to get me to let him. Back in the house. I found it to be very sweet. It was a little under a yr ago, but I have not reciprocated yet although he wants me to.
I think it is up to you. I have an ex's name on my ankle and it doesn't bother me a bit. It was part of my journey that got me to where I am now in my life.

Hearthache again posted 10/30/2013 23:40 PM

I would wait for a very long time. We are years out and my H is the one who wants to get his ring finger tattooed with my name too. I on the other hand will not get his name tattooed on my body probably ever while he is living. I may do it as a memorial to him. He understands why I can not do it. I have been hurt so much from him. It took over 18 months for me to even put on a new wedding ring. I am now wearing my engagement ring again because my new ring needs to have a diamond replaced.

You do what you want, but think long and hard about this.

Thessalian posted 10/30/2013 23:43 PM

I'm not very far out, but for the first few years of our relationship, WH made some noises about getting tattoos with each other's names, or some meaningful thing to the both of us. I was very against that, despite being extremely head over heels at the time. And man oh man, am I glad that never happened. What if, heaven forbid, my WS does it again? I'd never be able to wash myself clean.

OW, on the other hand, 3-4 months into the A, got herself tatted up twice, once with a poem about my WS and once with a little symbol that means something to him. Now, WH has dropped OW on her ass, and every time she gets naked, she'll have to look at all the permanent reminders of what a huge idiot she is.

I think it's never a good idea to mark yourself up in regards to a particular person. People change. Life changes. Situations change too fast.

Star Wars, on the other hand, stays the same. Get a Death Star?

cannibal posted 10/31/2013 00:18 AM

Lilflower my wf had gotten my name tattooed on her back within the first 3 months we were together. I never reciprocated either. Kinda why we are talking about the rings. I know now I still don't go 5 minutes w/o A thoughts going through my head.

cannibal posted 10/31/2013 01:59 AM

Heartache I just read your back story and I can see where you are coming from. I'd wait too.
Thessalian you made me laugh... ty. I've never have been an ap and I guess I never will, but I can't understand stand how anyone would make the commitment of a tattoo w/o the commitment of a monogamous relationship. I guess we never truly know if our partners are fully committed and like you said people change. I just want to do something meaningful. We have got a cat. The first pet we have had together. When it comes to the death star I'm more of a poetic man. I could maybe see a verse before a picture tattooed. Although I have seen some pretty awesome picture tattooes.