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User Topic: Help with 180?
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Default  Posted: 1:41 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I need some advice about the 180 please? I get that this is about me and trying to do it to find me but as I'm a working SAHM and I do absolutely everything around the house and I mean EVERYTHING. The thing is I'm a little OCD and like things right. I realise this is my problem to deal with but sometimes get rather resentful that It's all left to me to handle. So the question is, do I continue doing EVERYTHING including his ironing, picking up after him etc.? I'm just slightly confused. We are trying to R but he is having a serious MLC so I don't think he's fully accepting of what he's done hence my desire yo follow the 180. Any advice welcome. I know it's trivial compared to most things I've read but need to know how to move forward please?

Me:BS Married 13 years, together 23
Him: WH - EA/PA with now married

'If you come into my life, the door is open; If you leave my life, the door is open; Just one request, don't stand in the doorway and block the traffic"

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Angry  Posted: 5:30 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am very new to all of this, so take it for what it is worth:

I have always done everything, also. I have always prided myself on being a "self sufficient male", so I was accustomed to doing everything "my way" when I was single. My wife has never had to lift a finger at home... I do the work around the house after work and on weekends- all of the cooking (it's my hobby),cleaning, yard work, etc.
I have started (since Sunday) only preparing meals for myself. I wash MY dishes. I no longer make the bed. The house used to be vacuumed every day- hasn't been done.
This accomplishes two things in my mind. It frees my time up for me to go do things alone to prepare for single life... and it is giving her a dose of reality of what life without me will be like.

The look on her face when I sit down to eat alone is priceless. Although
she has not said it the obvious
expression is "Where's mine?"

If 180 weren't so incredibly serious, it could be fun. (Except for living in a dirty house.)

Good luck. Mine has bee so spoiled for 12 years that she seems to be seeing the light. Time will tell.

[This message edited by justjim at 5:36 AM, October 31st (Thursday)]

Follow your BRAIN.
Your HEART is stupid as shit.

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