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User Topic: A year ago I trick-or-treated w/ OW
♀ 38765
Member # 38765
Default  Posted: 7:34 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not a fun day. WH had only went w me 1 other time and he was only w us for like 30 min b4 I told him to go ahead and go home he whining bout when we'd be done. Then last year POOF "hey what are the plans tonight, OW asked if we want to go w her and her kids." Silly me thinking my odd feelings were off went and within a few weeks we had the answer. This year he hasnt asked to go...nobody to impress w his wonderful fathering I suppose. Wouldnt it have been nice if I were good enough to impress or better yet, his children.

At least this year I'm not going trick-or-treating as a clueless idiot! Still, tough day and tough holidays ahead.

Posts: 304 | Registered: Mar 2013
♀ 35846
Member # 35846
Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wouldnt it have been nice if I were good enough to impress or better yet, his children.

Wouldn't it be nice if he cared to be good enough.

YOU and your children are enough, worthy enough.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 4012 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
♀ 28851
Member # 28851
Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I understand. I trick or treated with OW and her kids in 2009, when the affair was going on.

This year I am going with my wonderful (new) husband and my kids. Ex will be with OW and her kids. I am perfectly okay with this.

Hang in there. It gets easier with time.

Me: 43 and fabulous!
3 children ages 13, 15 and 17
Ex said he wanted separation 2/14/10
DDay #1: 5/23/10 18 month affair with his 22 yr old paralegal
DDay #2 9/22/10 my best friend, now his wife
Divorced: 12/10/10
Re-married a wonderful man.

Posts: 342 | Registered: Jun 2010
♀ 27467
Member # 27467
Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry for the holiday reminders you will be experiencing. I only have two years under my belt and this year is a bit easier already. It is still pretty sad that it will always be associated with fwh bone-head decisions.

Halloween is a trigger for me. Two years ago the Saturday before Halloween sow texted me to let me know she and some other friends were at the local watering hole in heir costumes. My fwh was away for the weekend with his friends. (Texting both of us at the time.) I joined the friends and then went dancing for awhile at another location. The others went home early and left me and the barfly alone. Suddenly it felt so awkward and weird. I decided to go home myself. Two days later i found out why it felt so oogy to sit there with her. Three days later they suddenly couldn't resist temptation and he slept at her house. Luckily he was almost instantly disgusted and ended it the next day.

Take care cmc!

BW-47, married 24 years, together 27
WH-49, has LTEA w/ExGF, 25 years (minor PA)
Final no contact 4-2010
2nd A- 10-1-11 through 11-3-11
D-day 11-3-11 through 11-6-11
PA- mainly kissing until the last night when they had sex.
R- so far so good

Posts: 220 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
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