If your WS is doing the hard work to get to the root of and deal with their issues, then you have hope to heal and R.
I don't know, she seems to be. Then I just don't feel like trying and not sure what is keeping me here.
She says I'm not doing anything to make her want to come back. When she says that it makes sense to me, that I should be doing something. She wants notes and flowers, part of me says sure why not? The rest of me is like why are you crawling back to her?
She stomped around all grumpy this morning but left me a little card.
From what you posted, she doesn't appear to be truly remorseful to me.
Divorce is the right thing.
You would NOT be making a mistake, you would NOT be overracting, you would NOT be missing out on your one true love. She has NO intention of changing her behavior, in fact, she's taking her infidelity underground.
If you need more evidence to really see the light, then do it. Put a GPS tracker in her car, install a keylogger, put a VAR in her car, whatever.
I'm telling you, run from this broken, disordered mess.
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.