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WontStop posted 10/31/2013 12:35 PM

Hello all,

Sorry I've not been around much, but I've been moving on with my life. About three weeks ago I was fully divorced from my now Ex. I'm very glad it's over and I am already well on my way to a new life. I've bought a new home, got a promotion, got a certification , and have a steady relationship with a wonderful and loving woman.

It still surprises me how I can sometimes get those sad feelings. My coworker knows my wife and let me know at a lunch I held for my team that my ex now officially dating her boyfriend out in public. I am now with a woman who treats me so well with positive motivation and thoughtful gestures. I have discovered that my Ex was really not a great partner, as she was very selfish, abused me throughout our marriage, and is proving to be lazy as she does so much less with the kids now that I am gone. Even so, I had a moment of sadness when I realized we were apart now living separate lives. I'm very happy with my life right now, more than when I was married, frankly. I just don't get why I would still feel bad about my old marriage being over. Weird, huh?

MovingUpward posted 10/31/2013 12:37 PM

Congratulations on your New Beginning.

nowiknow23 posted 10/31/2013 13:48 PM

Not weird, WontStop - absolutely normal and human. It's a life-changing thing you went through. No small impact, that one. Of course the scars are going to twinge now and again.

Congratulations on your New Beginning.

Shockleader posted 11/1/2013 11:33 AM

Congrats WS on your NB!

I am now with a woman who treats me so well with positive motivation and thoughtful gestures. I have discovered that my Ex was really not a great partner, as she was very selfish, abused me throughout our marriage...

I know EXACTLY how you feel! Amazing what a little thoughtful, UNSELFISH support can do... Damn nice feeling ain't it, and all you/I/we want to do is reciprocate it in a circle of giving that grows stronger. Your feelings are hardly weird, I'd think it weird if they did not pop up at some point.

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