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User Topic: Broke NC...
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But XPOS left me with no real choice as it was time to set some firm boundaries. I have not had any communication since August, and I preferred it that way. However, that did not stop him from sending texts and then following up with an email when I would not respond to his texts about things that were not true, making frivolous comments that simply are not necessary, etc. Bottom line, my anxiety would peak anytime I would see his name pop up in an email or text, and I needed to break NC to shut him down. I responded to his last email, clarified his erroneous statements with documentable proof, and told him not to contact me via any other method other than USPS mail unless there is a true emergency, and even then it is to be minimum with the sharing of documents, etc. only. I HATED breaking two months of NC, but I simply could not take the anxiety any more, and there is nothing we need to discuss that can't be handled via snail mail. Okay, so I might have also done a little venting. Just a brief paragraph to let him really know what I think of him and his vile behavior. Yes, I know it won't do any good, but if that was my parting shot it made me feel good after months of putting on the "civil" face and biting my tongue till it bled. I wanted my pound of flesh, and got perhaps an ounce, but I did get in a few good pot shots at his whore while I was at it (couldn't resist, sorry). Damn it felt good!

Normally, he becomes a bully about those things and responds right back, but as of now there has been nothing. There was really nothing for him to come back with. So maybe, just maybe, he will respect my boundaries and finally leave me alone so I can begin to heal. He also (hopefully) realizes we are most certainly NOT friends!!

I may have also slipped in a couple of words that let him know I know he is living with the whore and their OC (he still thinks he is in stealth mode and it is a big secret), as well as dropped the name of a park where they go walking regularly. His paranoia is going to go off the charts because he now knows that I know where he is living (yet another big secret). It will serve him right to walk around wondering who is watching him...

Still waiting for that giant sinkhole to open up and swallow him so my problem goes away for good!

Okay, back to crickets for absolutely everything...

[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 11:36 PM, October 31st (Thursday)]


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1309 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, October 31st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You gotta do what's right for you. Remember you've got truth on your side. You can vent here. You are right. It won't do any good to hell at him. Don't sink to his level.

But I bet it felt good


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

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