to give you some background...
When I found out about my H affair, he told me that he did things with the OW he "couldn't" do with.
Here a few things he mentioned
going to watch a movie
going to a Restaurant
touching/ holding Hands
Now that we are in the process of fixing things he would like to do these things with me. Well, not the sex part... yet.
I just can't do it. Whenever he brings it up, I think about " HE did this with her". It just causes me to trigger.
A little while ago we started to argue about this.
He said" I don't get this, why do you think of me and her if I am with you???" he also said that, HE is really trying to fix this whole thing but it seems that because of MY "triggers" I am the one not trying to fix it.
We just kept on arguing about this whole "trigger" issue.
I was getting so upset that I ended up crying...
Before my H walked away he said "So, this means that you never ever going to go to the movies or Restaurant with me again????"
Anyone else's spouse not getting the "trigger" thing...
man, I am so pissed at him!