People in my "firm" have been arrested for OWI, beating their wife, etc, etc. They just don't do anything.
If completely understand the need to hurt and get some sort of revenge. It's a way for the BS to get back some power.
For what it's worth, I outed my husband's first AP to her boss. 30 second after I left that meeting I hit send on an email to every shareholder in that company. Don't regret it a bit.
not sure anything was done but it felt SO GOOD. I'm noticing she never gets promoted.
me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”
I would wait to see if you R with your H before doing anything. Don't mess with his income unless you can afford it.
At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.
"Love means never having to say you're sorry."
I am only 4 months out, so I am not the most sane-minded at this time, but I would save that card until you are in a better mental position. You are still in shock and even though it seems like a logical consequence, you don't want to add more stress like loss of income or health insurance at this time
I don't know your story, but has the A has ended? Does the other BS know if there is one? Has a NC letter been sent?
Start with protecting yourself (and kids if any). Eat, drink water, and try and get some sleep. Get an STD test, move money into an account, research lawyers, and look into the 180.
Edited to add: If you decide not to R, then him having an income could be to your benefit for spousal support.
[This message edited by ILINIA at 6:05 PM, November 1st (Friday)]
I didn't want WH to lose his job because at the time he was the sole breadwinner in our family. Even now, I would want child support from him.