Believe me those few weeks, I wanted to out him to everyone or at least wear a scarlet letter A to work, but I held off. They still work for the same company, different teams now. Part of R, was that he had to tell all his leadership. I wanted him accountable. No morality clause at his company. HR deals with this "a lot" per one of his leadership, so they were more than happy to move him immediately to another team.
I am only 4 months out, so I am not the most sane-minded at this time, but I would save that card until you are in a better mental position. You are still in shock and even though it seems like a logical consequence, you don't want to add more stress like loss of income or health insurance at this time
I don't know your story, but has the A has ended? Does the other BS know if there is one? Has a NC letter been sent?
Start with protecting yourself (and kids if any). Eat, drink water, and try and get some sleep. Get an STD test, move money into an account, research lawyers, and look into the 180.
Edited to add: If you decide not to R, then him having an income could be to your benefit for spousal support.
[This message edited by ILINIA at 6:05 PM, November 1st (Friday)]