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Afraid2LoveAgain (original poster member #11185) posted at 11:58 AM on Saturday, November 2nd, 2013
Do I think that I could teach her to drive if I worked really hard at it? Maybe if that's all I focused on day and night. And if I had an unlimited supply of peanuts. If I watched her every move, never once letting my attention be diverted.
AfraidPup is smart. She loves to please. So, yes, she might learn to drive. But she would never be a safe driver. It is not in her nature. I would never feel safe riding in the passenger seat. I would not want to travel the world with a dog chauffeur.
Maybe our lives would be better spent not focused on trying to teach dogs to drive.
BW -- 58
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 1:28 PM on Saturday, November 2nd, 2013
Hah! I like the analogy.
But idk. My dog is as smart as he's going to get, and yet he's still this little furry ball of emotion that pays attention to my needs, pays attention to my mood, and does what he can to keep us both happy. My xWH who had the intellectual capacity to learn but *wilfully* chose not to, could not even manage to do that.
Which is the difference. Your dog *wants* to learn and please you and be a part of your life even if he doesn't have the intellectual capacity to change a damn thing. In contrast, WSs have the intellectual capacity but ....
Afraid2LoveAgain (original poster member #11185) posted at 1:38 PM on Saturday, November 2nd, 2013
Intellectual capacity, yes!
Emotional capacity--probably not.
:)
BW -- 58
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary
waiting2see ( member #13767) posted at 1:56 PM on Saturday, November 2nd, 2013
Fwiw. I would let my dog drive my car before I would trust XWS with my heart again.
me: BS
him: XWS
Someone I love once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift. --Mary Oliver
Afraid2LoveAgain (original poster member #11185) posted at 2:26 PM on Saturday, November 2nd, 2013
BW -- 58
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 2:32 PM on Saturday, November 2nd, 2013
I agree, Afraid. The dog needs to teach themselves how to drive. Not our job. However, I don't feel the dog would be able to teach themselves.
Unlike people who can take control of themselves and learn.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 2:52 PM on Saturday, November 2nd, 2013
I'm more likely to let my dog drive my car than to trust WH ever again. I might trust with verification at some point but is that trust?
Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
Chippednotbroken ( member #40170) posted at 3:07 PM on Saturday, November 2nd, 2013
Me 34 (former BS)
Happily Divorced November 17, 2014.
3 young kids all under 9.
"I'm sorry you don't like my honesty. But to be fair, I don't like your lies."
stongmomof3 ( member #41158) posted at 9:31 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2013
This made me truly LOL. Thanks.
Fwiw I feel more comfortable with my dog driving than WH .
Me 34 BS
Him 44 WS
3 EA, 1 PA each lasting over 7 months concurrently.
Are we in R? who the hell knows.
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 9:34 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2013
Waiting, you made me LOL!!! 
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
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