"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."
Maybe an official NC letter to her now? Also, you can get a lawyer to write up an official 'Please do not contact marathon or Mr. marathon. If you contact either of them again it will be considered harassment and legal action will be taken'.
Sometimes they do good, right?
I would be worried about poking the hornet's nest with the benefits thing -- isn't the important thing that your H did the right thing? I would her chips fall where they may. You can't control her. . . and why engage with her? That just gives her more attention.
Sorry for now edited out name calling. I am trying to be in the spirit of R but I forgot. Feelings ran very high for me yesterday
[This message edited by Marathonwaseasy at 11:34 PM, November 2nd (Saturday)]
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