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Marathonwaseasy posted 11/2/2013 06:55 AM

First time
6 weeks since he phoned her to say it was over. On the phone she said she knew he was only saying that because I was listening. Didn't do a NC letter as not on SI then
He was out running today and a car pulled over. A different car from before. He thought someone was asking for directions She got out and he put his hands up and said no and ran on. She called after him "it's ok"
He told me straightaway.
I told her any future contact I would inform authorities on her benefits cheating. Will do that on Monday.

authenticnow posted 11/2/2013 07:00 AM

Good on your WH for telling you right away.

Maybe an official NC letter to her now? Also, you can get a lawyer to write up an official 'Please do not contact marathon or Mr. marathon. If you contact either of them again it will be considered harassment and legal action will be taken'.

eachdayisvictory posted 11/2/2013 07:01 AM

Good. Sounds like you have stayed cool and effective. Congratulations on demonstrating once again what an unquestionably better person you are than the OW! Great success!

Marathonwaseasy posted 11/2/2013 12:18 PM

I wasn't there. I told her I'd inform on her previously. I really want to but I think she would go ballistic and I really don't want her to involve my children in her poisonous games so I'm holding off on that until we move house next spring. Then she can't touch us. I hate being scared though
I am going to seek legal advice about her harassment.
Feeling so panicky now

bionicgal posted 11/2/2013 16:10 PM

Your H did great!
My H caught a glimpse of OW when out running as well - said he did a fast left turn and went anaerobic trying to get away from her.

Sometimes they do good, right?
I would be worried about poking the hornet's nest with the benefits thing -- isn't the important thing that your H did the right thing? I would her chips fall where they may. You can't control her. . . and why engage with her? That just gives her more attention.

Marathonwaseasy posted 11/2/2013 17:01 PM

He did good
And he's been so supportive of me
I'm not going to engage in any way. I will shop her one day. Revenge is best served cold. Why should I work and pay tax to support benefit cheats??
The reason not to is to protect our kids. But if she tells them then I will report her. We will get the damn restraining order which will inconvenience her a lot and mean her husband will find out. And her kids and everybody else.
It just offends me that she would approach him and tell him she understands when he runs from her because she believes he is with me under sufferance. I know it isn't important but I'm finding it hard to let it go. Her nasty comments and texts she aimed at me around dday until I blocked her haunts me.

Sorry for now edited out name calling. I am trying to be in the spirit of R but I forgot. Feelings ran very high for me yesterday

[This message edited by Marathonwaseasy at 11:34 PM, November 2nd (Saturday)]

SI Staff posted 11/2/2013 20:01 PM

Marathonwaseasy,

Please follow the Reconciliation Forum guidelines. There is no OP namecalling in this forum.

Thank you.

Marathonwaseasy posted 11/2/2013 23:35 PM

I apologise for the name calling
I forgot
I will try harder
I've edited the post

SI Staff posted 11/3/2013 05:33 AM

Thank you

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