We've had good, even great days. He came home form his IC on Wed & was quiet. Didn't talk much.
Next day I asked why? He said his IC beat him up (emotionally).
Last night in bed talk in & he mentioned something & then said he didn't want to make me mad so he wasn't going to talk about it. I pushed him to tell me. It has to do with appearances (mine). Yes I got upset & well I think he will never get it.
I AM MORE THAN A MY OUTWARD LOOKS!
He's only been to IC maybe 5 times. He grew up in an environment that people tried & pretended to be someone they are not.
Stuffy/snooty supposed Christians who made you believe you had to look & act a certain way. Some of his family is still like that.
I wasn't brought up to keep up with the Jones'.
I almost feel like I should cut my losses.
Going into 4th month of R. He says his IC doesn't really think his issue is with appearances. They just haven't figured it out yet.
We have sex almost everyday. Really good sex too.
I feel like I'm not being true to myself by continuing in our marriage the way we are. Not much lovey stuff outside the bedroom & he never says he loves me. I stopped saying it to him because he'd respond with I love you back but it was almost under his breath.
So how long do I continue this whatever it is???????
Don't know if true change will ever happen.