You are right...your relationship will never be the same. A betrayal is a total game changer and you have the power to decide if you can do it or not. You are a different person now. You WH is a different person too.
I have been in R for 6 months. The first 6 months, were not what I would call active R. I wasn't sure what I wanted to do, or what I could do. Once I had both feet in and was somewhat back in the land of the living, the actual R and healing began.
Healing from this is the hardest thing I have ever done and so many times, we have been close to throwing in the towel. But, at a year, we have had some really good moments and have more open communication than ever before.
If you choose to go your separate ways, you will find someone else who sees the goodness in you. You partners brokenness does not define you and your value!
[This message edited by Undone1 at 2:16 PM, November 2nd (Saturday)]