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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We have a cat named Happy. He's actually pretty cranky and we've made fun of him on here a few times about that.

He had a problem and was vomiting all the time. It started slowly and just progressed to being out of hand before we realized it. It's like I just realized one day that all I was doing was cleaning up cat vomit.

So, Waywardson took him to the vet about a year ago. We were prepared to let him go that day and we all said our goodbyes.

I was surprised to see him in the carrier when Waywardson returned home. The doc said he had a palpable tumor and gave him some meds to stop the vomiting, but said we'd need to make the decision when that no longer worked.

Well, it stopped working, but I wasn't ready to give up on him, so I asked if he could have some sort of pain management. Pain meds have worked really well for him over the last year, but his disease seems to be progressing.

I can't handle this cat. He's very aggressive with me, but not Waywardson.

He's been vomiting, sometimes, after he eats, again.

This morning, Waywardson gave him meds before leaving for work. Happy was asking for food and I fed him. He threw it up and it had all of his meds in it. Waywardson was supposed to be at work until around midnight. Happy got aggressive with the other cats, I tried to med him which ended with me screaming, crying, slightly bleeding, no meds in the cat, and he may have hurt himself trying to get away, so he's been hiding ever since.

Waywardson is coming home for a few minutes to med him, then going back to work.

I think I just realized today that it's gone too far and we need to let him go, but I always feel so guilty- like maybe I could have done more, maybe a different med, etc. Still, I know we've exhausted all of our avenues and it's not fair to him to keep him around.

He's fine when his pain is controlled. He plays, rolls around, eats... but when something like today happens, he's miserable and so is everyone else.

I think I'm asking y'all to help me come to terms with this.

He was struggling with pain about a week ago and I found him under the bed. The three others were under there with him, like they were watching over him. They KNOW something's wrong. Tootie was sticking right by him today, even though he had just smacked the crap out of him.

I'm just so conflicted.

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Default  Posted: 7:25 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Tiky, happy, and wayward son))

It's no way for him to live.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 9169 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TIKY, I know it's hard making that decision but you have to ask yourself if it's better to keep him in this condition or give him relief. My H went through this with his dog, a dog he literally grew up with. Going deaf, going blind, messed up hips, incontinent and a tumor the size of a small peach. Even though it was *very* hard for him, he knew it was best for her to let her go. 25 years later, it still stings.

It comes down to quality of life, don't you think? And *of course* your other pets know something is wrong. I'd bet they knew before you or Waywardson.

It's hard but you both need to love him enough to let him go.

I'm so sorry.

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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Tiky, Happy, and wayward son)))

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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here he is just a couple of weeks ago:

See, he doesn't LOOK that sick.

I know it's not fair and we decided after his last bad day that the next one would be 'it'. Funny, he always has bad days on the weekends or holidays and gets all perky and playful when Monday arrives, so it's hard to make that decision then!

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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((TIKY))). Complicated stuff. I think you just go with your gut and know you have him a happy life for as long as possible. Cats are hard since they hide their illnesses so well.
I think you will know when it's time.

Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can he get pain meds by injection like Onsior? At least he wouldn't throw it up

"Put the cuckoo back in the clock baby" - Four Brothers

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♀ 18449
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Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think we'll draw the line at injections.

I've had a cat that I had to tube feed after he had a similar condition to this one. I TOLD the vet to let him go on the table, if it looked like that's what would happen, anyway. She didn't do it and she installed a feeding tube. I was responsible for pushing some sort of food/water/med down the tube every two hours. He only lasted a week or so before he let me know he was ready to go.

I've had a cat with Megacolon that I had to give enemas every day, sometimes multiple times a day.

There are other stories like those, but those two are the worst. Each time, we agreed that we wouldn't do as much the next time because we don't know at what point it becomes torture for them.

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Default  Posted: 11:24 PM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TIKY,,,So sorry for your situation...As for the megacolon, I had a cat that had to go to the vet to get cleaned out..I had to give him special stool softners and then enemas too...No fun, at all...He was such a sweet kittie too...He lived with that the last 4 yrs of his life...He was only 9 when he came to me crying and I knew it was time to go to the vet...I am so glad he didn't try to go off outside and die...They know when it is time...

I know you will make the right decision for Happy...I had to make that decision not long ago for my kittie who had breast cancer...She lived almost a year after we first found it...It was the fast growing kind...She started hiding in the house and was losing weight...So I knew and she knew it was time...

You probably gave Happy a much better life by being so attentive to his needs...So please don't beat yourself up..If he could talk to you, he would say thank you for loving me...

((((Hugs to TIKY, Happy, and Waywardson)))))))

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Default  Posted: 12:08 AM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you already know it's time, honey. You wish it weren't, but it sounds like it is.

Sending you and waywardson strength and comfort.

((((tiky, waywardson, happy))))

ETA: He's such a handsome boy.

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 12:09 AM, November 3rd (Sunday)]

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Default  Posted: 12:12 AM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh I'm so sorry, he is a lovely soul.

You know how to do right by him. No more suffering.

Big hugs.

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Default  Posted: 2:13 AM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"Put the cuckoo back in the clock baby" - Four Brothers

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