My H and I have been together for 15 (15!!!!) years. We've been married for 7 and have 3 beautiful children. Almost 3 years ago I started my affair, with my H's good friend and co-worker. It was on and off for that time, but 2 months ago (8/25), my H confronted me on the affair. He found out a few weeks earlier. My phone never completely locked when I fell asleep, and the text conversation between the other man and I were still open. H read it. He was devastated. Rightfully so.
He confronted me on 8/25 about it. I never denied it. I told him whatever he wanted. H thankfully never wanted to leave me. I count my lucky stars to have an amazing man like him, who won't give up, when honestly, I can't even say I would stay.
I ended contact with the other guy immediately. Deleted his number, and I've never looked back. I am certainly no better than him, because I cheated on my H, but I know for a fact he was seeing another woman the same time he was seeing me, and the fact my H confronted him about our affair hasn't slowed him down with his other one.
My H has decided that he doesn't want the other guys wife to know. This is not the first time it has happened in their marriage, he was caught cheating 1-2 years before I got to him, so H hasn't told her.
The other guy no longer works with my H, so it has been easier R with H. It's been very hard for both of us. I've been having anxiety attacks lately. H's issues are more "normal"; wondering when I cheated, where, how often, but he refuses to ask those questions because we, as a committed couple, are moving on from the past.
I look forward to using this forum to help me sort through my feelings, and help me understand what my H is going through, and for ways to help him any way I can.
[This message edited by almostlostitall at 1:16 AM, November 3rd (Sunday)]