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Can't sleep, feeling sad, need a hug

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 Ms_Strong (original poster member #30883) posted at 12:36 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2013

Couldn't sleep all night, I feel alone and sad. My BF and I may be breaking up, just feel so sad about it. My first relationship since D.

It's bringing back memories of the end of the M, and that feeling of its going to happen, those words that lead to breaking up.

I think I may have talked my BF into realizing the love of his life isn't me but another girl he dated 2years ago.

Feel so sad.

Me: 40, happily divorced Dec11
D-Day #1 - 9th Jan 11, D-Day #2 - 13th Jan 11
Kids - 4, 8 yrs

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timeforchange ( member #27454) posted at 1:18 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2013

Hello MsStrong.

Sorry to read you are suffering and sad.

Maybe you need to breach the subject with him? Maybe having a talk about why you are feeling this way may give you some clear answers.

Worst case scenario is he does what to end things... But at least then you will known and can start working on your healing.

I see our originals D Days were the same week!!! You have come so far... You can Survive this too.

Take care

Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”

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timeforchange ( member #27454) posted at 1:19 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2013

Sorry forgot the hugs

(((((((((((MsStrong)))))))))))

Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 1:27 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2013

((((Ms_Strong))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 4:53 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2013

(((Ms_Strong)))

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ninebark ( member #24534) posted at 5:09 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2013

I have no amazing words of advice here. Dating is hard.

So I send you great big hugs from Canada and hope you feel better soon.

BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

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fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 5:18 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2013

Sending you big hugs from California. I went through a breakup recently too and while it was the right thing to do it was more difficult than any other breakup aside from my marriage.

Hang in there, maybe things will turn out for you and BF after all!

Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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better4me ( member #30341) posted at 6:59 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2013

(((Ms_Strong)))

Life can be so hard some times.

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!

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thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 7:37 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2013

(((Ms_Strong)))

Sad as it makes you feel, I think it's better for you than being with someone who isn't into the relationship the same way. Better to find out the truth now. You deserve so much more!!

tbh

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 1:59 AM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2013

(((Ms. Strong)))

Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver

Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie

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gardenparty ( member #12050) posted at 3:40 AM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2013

((hugs))

divorced!

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Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 4:56 AM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2013

(((((Ms_Strong)))))))

Better to find out now then later.

Still hurts,

More hugs,

K

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 4:57 AM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2013

(((Ms_Strong)))

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 8:08 AM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2013

(((Ms Strong)))

Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 10:22 PM on Wednesday, November 6th, 2013

How are you doing today, Ms_Strong?

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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