He is tired all the time, has a zero sex drive but is trying. He asked me what else he could do to help me, the only thing he kept is his cell phone and I wouldn't ask him to give that up.
I asked him if he is willing to talk to his doctor but he is having rotator cuff issues and said one thing at a time. We were in counseling but can't afford it although we have talked about it again.
I just don't know. :(
Finally this is R 8/14/13
"Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey".
[This message edited by DollheartDead at 12:01 PM, November 4th (Monday)]
He asked me what else he could do to help me...
He can be someone interesting and fun to be around. He can demonstrate his knowledge of your love languages. He can suffer in silence and quit playing the victim, at least to you. He can continue his work on his childhood issues and bottled up angers and demonstrate sustained change.
He can work at being someone you can rely on to do the right thing. Not just no longer having an A, but doing more than his share of housework, bill paying, yard work, repairs, etc. without any prompting or asking from you.
Money is a common theme in your posts. He can sacrifice some to make more money from the household pot available for you. He could take an additional part time job, especially through the holidays to bring in additional money.
He can take, and demonstrate, responsibility for repairing himself, the marriage, and supporting you in your healing.
