"You can survive this. Talk to others that have"

thecaves posted 11/4/2013 13:03 PM

Made a rookie move last night. Browsing through amazon prime movies and came across a 1984 film with DeNiro and Streep. We like them both and it had a romantic title called "Falling in Love" Well.. i'm sure you can just imagine what the primary plot was. I need to remember to screen the plot of all romantic movies :(

So, what are some good romantic movies that feature marriage?

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Undefinabl3 posted 11/4/2013 14:56 PM

Shadowlands with Anthony Hopkins

Oldy, but goodie

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jost1125 posted 11/4/2013 18:50 PM

I don't know about your BW, but for me, romantic movies are out all together. Even if the romance is within a marriage, any time I see any physical contact, I'm seeing WBF and OW. I don't know when I'll ever want to watch another romantic movie again.

plainpain posted 11/4/2013 19:00 PM

I watched the prince kiss Snow White and I almost hurled. I only see WH and OW. Any time there is a hint of romance, I have to leave the room.

Aubrie posted 11/4/2013 19:39 PM

"Romance" was off limits for a looong time for us. We stuck to feel good cartoons. Which still bit us in the butt a few times. Two "innocent" cartoon characters smack in EA land.

We're still very careful what we watch. If QS mentions a movie, I research the crap out of it before we watch it. Mostly, we stick with cartoons and documentaries.

Might change one day. But for now, we're both too sensitive to...extra-curricular activity on-screen.

k94ever posted 11/4/2013 19:47 PM

"Murphy's Romance"

"What Dreams Make Come"

k9

JustDesserts posted 11/4/2013 19:52 PM

The Notebook (undying love), Twilight (I know, tween girl candy. But love at first sight and commitment.), The Quiet Man, The Prince & Me, I Know Where I'm Going, Julie & Julia (Streep & Tucci), The Illusionist.

Triggers aside, these mostly "safe" from infidelity.

Pride & Predjudice. Emma, too.

knightsbff posted 11/4/2013 19:57 PM

No romantic movies for us either. Basically stuff blowing up, martial arts fighting, car chase scenes, and shoot outs.

Oh and on TV food network and dog whisperer.

Aubrie posted 11/4/2013 20:00 PM

The Notebook

Is not infidelity free. Watched it once upon a time. Was all "swoony" over it. Awwww, Twue wuv. Started to watch it after Dday. Saw that sucker in a whole new light. Granted, she wasn't "married" to new dude, but she was in a committed relationship. She was his fiance.

On the Jane Austen front, don't watch Mansfield Park. Infidelity. Course she does get what she "deserves". Abandoned in a small cottage with an equally hateful and bitter aunt and shunned by society.

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thecaves posted 11/4/2013 22:22 PM

I agree with you completely Aubrie.

Thanks to others... especially those who said romantic movies are completely off limits now... it will be a topic i bring up tonight... maybe that's the best thing for us too right now.

heme posted 11/4/2013 22:29 PM

I use to enjoy good romantic movies since I love it when things have a happy ending. Now all I can think about is how long would it really last before one betrayed the other. So, no romantic movies here either..

We watch a lot of cooking shows and kids shows when we do watch TV, which is rarely.

heartache101 posted 11/4/2013 22:46 PM

My husband FWS loves loves twilight.
I hate it but I watch it because he loves it! I love comedy! I dont ever want to see another love romantic movie. Not yet. I am 20+ years out.

harrypotter posted 11/5/2013 03:49 AM

I don't have any good movie suggestions I actually considered never watching tv or movies again I never realized all of the possible triggers. We have watched movies and shows together and sometimes it seems okay and sometimes it's not. Oddly something's that bother me or I think would bother her she said didn't and sometimes things i didn't think would upset her do. So for me it's hard to say and sometimes makes it not worth the risk to me. I actually find myself trying to think of other things to do together at night after the kids go to bed. Maybe read together, talk. That said for us the family movies for the kids watching them with the kids I.e family movie night seem to be the safest. Real Steal is a good one, pacific rim might be good as well. Sorry but in my experience you never know so it's always a risk where we are at right now.

Unagie posted 11/5/2013 05:11 AM

Romantic movies are hell for me, not so much for him. The notebook...omg I hate it, twisted and jam packed full of infidelity even if they are "soulmates." Twilight has infidelity too, she was in love with Jacob, she just loved Edward "more." That very sentence is triggery. Look only she will know what will trigger her, aske her if she wants romance, comedy, cartoons. I watched Family Guy and American Dad last night, both packed with infidelity. I was sitting there like WTF!? All I wanted was some laughs, I was dead silent the whole time. Media glorifies it, it is everywhere, take precautions.

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painfulpast posted 11/5/2013 05:47 AM

The Notebook - ugh. Nothing but a cheater that is marrying another because she isn't with who she loves. Disgusting.

Of course, I'm jaded. My fWH's A was with an ex, and she posted all over her FB page how the notebook was the most romantic movie ever made. I think she saw her and my H in it.

The entire movie is based on her infidelity. It isn't romantic if you even once think of her fiance.

EDIT - sorry. I forgot to add that I'm also in the 'no romance movies' boat. Even if there is no infidelity, the couple in the movie may do something that triggers you BS or you. They could say something that you and OP said to each other, or do something, or perhaps something you and your spouse did before the A, that now seems 'ruined' due to the A. It's just too risky.

Then again, I was also set off once by something in IronMan 2, so you really never know.

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JustDesserts posted 11/5/2013 07:15 AM

Full retraction of Notebook. And I thought Twilight didn't have "infidelity". Just the later movies in series.

SeeThingsNow1 posted 11/5/2013 07:42 AM

I liked Les Mis....
The whole theme is love ( the singing was not so great...lol ) BUT the one part made me cry so much, anne hathaway singing I Had A Dream....my life would be, so different from this hell I'm living.......the whole movie was about the power of love ( to me anyway) very moving if you just listen to the message

HeartInADustpan posted 11/5/2013 07:50 AM

Just had to chime in as a BS. My all time guilty pleasure romantic movie has been Ever After since I first saw it *cough* 15 years ago. Last time I watched it was dday right before I innocently opened my WH email and had the discovery of my life. The movie has since been thrown out and the thought of it makes me sick.

Romances put me on edge now. I resist the urge to scream at the TV that it's all a big sham.

thecaves posted 11/5/2013 15:16 PM

So we talked about this a little last night. The general outcome is that it depends on the mood and and depends on the movie. Like others have stated, I think it's just something too risky at this point and avoidance is the best choice right now.

grassisgreener posted 11/6/2013 10:40 AM

The Notebook?? Even IF you overlook the jilted fiance, you're just going to rub in BS face what she'll never have. Movies and tv are definitely trickier now.