I can honestly say that I have noticed signs of a mid life crisis over the past 2 yrs. purchasing lots of boy toys, staying out partying on Friday nights with work buddies and coming home drunk, or passing out where he was partying. Generally acting like he did in his 20's. then the purchase of the midlife crisis car. I thought it was a phase so didn't worry. The EA was really just the topping on a couple of really shitty years on his part.
I seemed to mature....he seemed to go in reverse!
Affirmative on all three counts.
Married 23 years - together for 29 years
DDay - June 10th 2012 then TT'd-June 2012 - July 2012 (and beyond????)
2 amazing children
"Understanding love is one of the hardest things in life." - Fred Rogers
Leaning towards leaving, no one deserves this pain.
Financially we weren't great, but he was doing great career wise, promotion, etc.
He was 30 when he had his first affair. 35 when it all stopped.
Former 80s Icon wishful thinking
For him, it was actually kind of the opposite. Right when we got everything we wanted, he started acting out. Literally like, 8 weeks later.
7 years of double-digit ONS, LTA, hookers - the works.
First found out: August 20, 2013
Whole truth: January 1, 2014
So, yes on all three counts.
And "yes" on the other two. We're neither of us quite 40, but close enough.
Our kids were then 16, 14 and 11.
Financially we were doing great.
Her: WW/57 Me: BS/63 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11
I don't think finances were a factor in my first M, though we had young kids and he started cheating early in our M when he was in his 20's.
In my current M, we were in late 40's, had no children left at home, and yes we had some finanicial issues (or at least were fighting because of stuff he was doing (lying and deceiving me about his spending).
DD#1 July 28, 2010 Admitted to EA. A went underground.
DD#2 August 19,2010 Admitted PA
Last A he was 40, 2 school aged kids, and we were doing terribly financially.