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Spelljean posted 11/4/2013 21:38 PM

WH still uses "baby" and "honey" when we converse. We are divorcing.

Anyone notice this as something that lasted a long time?

I use his first name and requested he do the same but he won't.

Guess I will just need to ignore it.

Dark Inertia posted 11/4/2013 21:40 PM

Ex called me "hon" for a long time, out of habit I believe.

No12turn2 posted 11/4/2013 22:03 PM

Mine doesn't want to R but she still says babe to me. She also still says I love you before she goes to sleep on the couch or before she leaves or hangs up the phone. We both know she does it out of habit and nothing else

thebighurt posted 11/4/2013 22:46 PM

Funny, xpos told me when we were first together that saying those things to each other just sounded *fake* and *phony* to him and he didn't want to do that.

Shortly after I started to suspect him of cheating, he suddenly started calling me "babe" and got all indignant when I asked him why.

Right after he left for slut, he came here one day and took a call from her standing in front of me. He stood there saying, "oh, honey, sweetie, I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you!".

So I guess that was an indication that it all was fake in his mind.

stunnedin12 posted 11/4/2013 22:52 PM

Wh and I seldom used endearments before the affair.

Now? The only thing I call him is his first name and/or Mr. last name.

Every once in awhile I used to call him his common work nickname but I will never use that nickname again since chickie used it all the time.

He has started calling me, honey. I don't know that it means diddly squat to him.

surviving1963 posted 11/4/2013 23:48 PM

My WH NEVER used any terms of endearment, like honey, babe, sweetie......until now. After 32 years of him acting like talking that was corny. He has started calling me "sweetie". What?! Where did that come from? Butt-kisser. It's not working.

Onan posted 11/5/2013 00:10 AM

Never really had any endearments - just first names only. One time though, when making love she said "Ohhh, baby..". Problem is - "baby" was her endearment with OM. Kinda ruined the moment.

Sadly, a true story...

Raven96 posted 11/5/2013 11:49 AM

We NEVER used our names. It was always "Hon" or "Honey," and when our son was little it was "Mommy" or "Daddy." For the first few months after D-Day I used ONLY his first name. He would answer, "What, RA-VEN," clearly annoyed that I wasn't saying "Hon." When our toddler started calling him by his first name, I went back to the way it was. We are R, so I figured why not?

TheRealDeal posted 11/5/2013 19:29 PM

We have names for each other but never "hon" or "babe".

After Dday he started calling me "hon" or "babe". That was new and apparently the names they called each other.

So whenever he called me "hon" or "babe" I replied each time with "who is that?". He got the message.

Those 2 words are no longer part of our vocabulary.

fourever posted 11/5/2013 19:44 PM

He tried a nickname on me he used for mow. Until I ripped him a new asshole for it.

thebighurt posted 11/6/2013 00:58 AM

It seems that WSs have this in common, at least among the posters to this thread. Quite a number have said that the endearments were a new development around the time the A began. This is true of when I suspected him of it in our case.

Just an observation upon reading through the thread.