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persevere posted 11/4/2013 22:02 PM

I went to visit my SD20 at her college this weekend. We spent the afternoon together, and it was awesome. Miss that girl so much. She is just as amazing, kind and driven as ever.

The hard part was our brief conversation about her father (XWH). They don't talk often, and she told me that the last time they did see each other (six months ago) he mentioned OW's name (his now wife) and SD told him that she didn't care to ever hear OW's name spoken in her presence.

Of course, I appreciate this, but at the same time it broke my heart. It kills me that this beautiful child has to tell her father what a fuck up he is by setting boundaries like that for him. She said he was a little taken aback by it but he respected her wishes after that.

She is such an amazing kid - she is someone who will make an incredible difference in this world.

It was so nice to spend some time with her. <3

Kajem posted 11/4/2013 22:52 PM

It's nice to know that she has boundaries at such a young age. I didn't have many until I was twice her age!

I am willing to bet you are a huge part of who she has become-you have every reason to be proud.

Hugs,
K

better4me posted 11/4/2013 22:58 PM

so glad that you got to see her, talk with her, spend the afternoon with her and be a part of her life! Happy for you!!

miadianna posted 11/4/2013 23:20 PM

I'm sorry, know how you feel. My daughter just told her dad she didn't want to be a part of his wedding with OW and he flipped out and has been harassing her and asking her why. I'm happy for your DD that your XH respected her wishes.

It breaks my heart what our kids have to deal with when they should be out there focusing on their own lives at this important age.

Hugs to both of you.