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User Topic: Visit with my SD20
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I went to visit my SD20 at her college this weekend. We spent the afternoon together, and it was awesome. Miss that girl so much. She is just as amazing, kind and driven as ever.

The hard part was our brief conversation about her father (XWH). They don't talk often, and she told me that the last time they did see each other (six months ago) he mentioned OW's name (his now wife) and SD told him that she didn't care to ever hear OW's name spoken in her presence.

Of course, I appreciate this, but at the same time it broke my heart. It kills me that this beautiful child has to tell her father what a fuck up he is by setting boundaries like that for him. She said he was a little taken aback by it but he respected her wishes after that.

She is such an amazing kid - she is someone who will make an incredible difference in this world.

It was so nice to spend some time with her. <3

Me: BW-46
Him: XWH-46

Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.

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Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's nice to know that she has boundaries at such a young age. I didn't have many until I was twice her age!

I am willing to bet you are a huge part of who she has become-you have every reason to be proud.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 6708 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

so glad that you got to see her, talk with her, spend the afternoon with her and be a part of her life! Happy for you!!

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:54

Posts: 4130 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
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Default  Posted: 11:20 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry, know how you feel. My daughter just told her dad she didn't want to be a part of his wedding with OW and he flipped out and has been harassing her and asking her why. I'm happy for your DD that your XH respected her wishes.

It breaks my heart what our kids have to deal with when they should be out there focusing on their own lives at this important age.

Hugs to both of you.

Me: BS 56
Son: 30 years old
Daughter: 28 years old
Divorced 4/10/08
XH passed away 6/24/16

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