First of all, it's none of his business where I'm going. He lost that right a loooong time ago. Then he says if I can't be polite adn ask nicely and justify my reason then I will just have to stick to the schedule as written.
Are you kidding me? Be polite and as nicely? what a fucking ass. I'm shaking as I type this. So I say "fine", and I will jsut be late for my GNO. Then he follows up with one last email asking me "are you leaving the girls alone nights?"
Excuse me? What the fuck do you think I am doing every nigt? I guarentee you he thinks I am out galivanting around town with god knows who doing you knwo what while my kids are home alone. LMFAO, the truth could not be more different!!! I've never ever left them alone at night, and I only leave my oldest (12) alone for 45 mins while I grocery shop and I text her constantly that whole time.
I cannot believe what he thinks of me. It makes me feel so dirty that he thinks that and is probably telling people that. I am not that girl! I am a good and extrememly responsible mother, dammit.
Gawd, I hate him. I hate his holier than thou attitude. I hate seeing his sunken face and thinning hair. I hate, hate HATE that he still can get me this riled up!!!!!!!!!!!
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
I totally get where you're coming from, though. I think the best course of action is to keep the details, justifications to a minimum. Just say "I have an appointment and I'm going to be a bit late, can you please pick up the girls". And NOTHING about the GNO, etc. And you don't have to justify anything to him so fuck that noise.
If he asks why then crickets and you make other plans.
TBH I probably wouldn't have even asked him for an earlier pickup because 30 mins is simply not worth the contact to me. I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much.
Even if you were doing what he is insinuating it doesn't make you a bad mother or 'that girl'. Why would you think it does?
Who gives a flying fuck what he thinks? If he tells people rubbish about you and they believe him then they are almost as big a fuckwit than him.
Irritating, yes - but immaterial.
You can't control his fuckery but you can control how much you let it impact you. Work on that and you'll never feel this way again.
My favourite NIK-ism: "They know exactly which buttons to press because they installed the fuckers!!".
The sad clown still tries to goad every chance he gets. It used to make me as livid as you are now. Exactly the impact he was aiming for.
Fuck.That.Guy. I've worked very hard to not just not show that he has impacted me but also to have it really not impact me.
These days I have a quiet chuckle at how pathetic and transparent he is.
Poor sad clown, you need better bait than that. Loser.
Next time he pulls this shit say to yourself: "Still so important to you. Dude, show your dick some respect and at least PRETEND your shell of of a life is working for you."
That works for me.
"Still so important to you. Dude, show your dick some respect and at least PRETEND your shell of of a life is working for you."
yes, exactly. It creeps the ever loving fuck out of me that he STILL, 2 plus years after dday, cant well and good LEAVE ME ALONE. Just move on buddy. I have. Why he still wants to push my buttons is fucking CREEPY. Push your stupid cheater wife's buttons - you married her, now go bug her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much.
I cannot believe what he thinks of me.
It's not what he thinks of you, it's what he knows about himself. He's the best thing walking from his POV yet he's fu*king awful! Therefore, the rest of the world must be even worse.
I probably wouldn't have even asked him for an earlier pickup because 30 mins is simply not worth the contact to me.
I cannot believe what he thinks of me.... It's not what he thinks of you, it's what he knows about himself.
The thing that is helpful to us involved with NPD's is once you know this, it is freeing. He is tipping his hand and showing you what is going on in his head. Because he has no empathy he just assumes everyone is just like him...This lets you know he will leave the kids unattended.