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Their secret email account is still out there. I want it deleted. I keep trying to hack it so that I can delete it, but I can't get in. WH's been telling me that the password isn't the same as when he used it with her, and he doesn't want to contact her to tell her to delete the account because there has supposedly been NC since May. (She supposedly set it up).

So today, I tried yet again, only this time I decided to try to just change the password (I know I can't) so I can see what email was listed as the backup.

Instead...I get a security question: What is the name of your first motorcycle. My WH never had one, so I'm assuming it's hers. The kicker is, the security questions were updated back in July, THE VERY DATE I sent an email to that account saying she could have him because I was done. At that point, the account supposedly hadn't been used in two months. WHY would she need to update the security questions on that very date?????

One of the emails he produced for me was from her to him in March at 10 AM on a Tuesday saying she was watching videos (porn) and thinking of him, and had some new toys to try out, too. And now a motorcycle!!!! She is just too good to be true. He should go to her!

Please know that I am in no way knocking women or women that ride motorcycles, watch porn, use sex toys, or anything like that. I always wanted to be more cool. I am just jealous that I'm not enough.

Someone talk me off this ledge...

[This message edited by Raven96 at 2:00 PM, November 5th (Tuesday)]

I am totally confused by your topic title.

I am just jealous that I'm not enough.

You are more than enough. You are the perfect you. He is the one that is less than and will be until he fixes his shit. (((Raven)))

Women on motorcycles are a trigger for me, too. OW has a motorcycle in our sitch. Thought it would lure my FWH with its stupid motorcycle. Really??? If FWH wanted a motorcycle he would buy one. Doesn't need to sit on the back of yours like he's your bitch. Or better, did you really think he would feel like a man driving your motorcycle and that would lure him away from me? At least you would be sitting in the proper place that was, apparently, named after it. The bitch seat. What a c you next tuesday.

I am so sorry for any women that ride motorcylces here but I really have a visceral negative reaction towards female's (even my sister-in-law) riding motorcycles.

t/j

This is my nomination for the strangest title of a thread.

I guess it worked because I looked in to see what the he11 it was all about.

((((Raven)))))

So, she's emailing him about watching porn and her new toys huh? Gee, I wonder how many men I could get, or you, or anyone, with those kinds of emails. Jesus, talk about someone that is just an attention whore. That screams 'pay attention to meeeeeeeeeeeeeee'. Desperate. Gross and desperate.

Don't worry about the bike. She isn't that 'cool'. Having a motorcycle means she was able to buy a motorcycle - nothing more. It's also a GREAT way for women to get attention, further proving what an attention seeking slugtrail this thing is.

You may not be 'cool', but you have dignity, which beats 'cool' every time.

Sorry about the title. Growing up, there was a girl that all the guys wanted to date because she was so cool, knew how to use tools, was awesome in shop class, could play baseball with the best of them, and she was pretty. She totally knew how she affected the guys, and you could tell she was comfortable with the attention. The "jealous" girls used to say that she was so awesome she should have a penis, since she reeled them in by acting like one of them.

I forgot all about that until today, when I found out about the motorcycle. That pushed me over the edge. The way she was so easy with telling him she was watching porn and thinking of him and had some new toys to try out was bad enough. It was like she was saying, "Don't you wish your wife was as great as me??" Having the name of your first motorcycle as one of your security questions, well, she is just SO AWESOME!!!!

Thank you, SisterMilkshake and Painfulpast for posting and making me feel better. Today was just a bad day. I really want that stupid email to go away. Why does she keep it?! More importantly, why does it bug me so much?? UGH!

I kinda get the title. OW was doing all the things your WH likes. It made her forbidden, cool and intriguing.

Trust me fantasy is never reality. He just thought she was Disney world, playhouse and all.

Raven96, I TOTALLY got the title of your post.

In my situation, OW loves 4-wheelin', NASCAR, big trucks, and watching football.

I like libraries, art shows, wine tastings, and watching documentaries.

I do not feel "cool" when compared to OW (and I will not kid myself and think that FWH didn't mentally compare me to her, he became just like her during the affair).

I totally get it. Seriously, I knew OWs like that before my FWH had an affair.

I wish I had more words of consolation, but just know I get it, and I feel your pain.

Thank you again. I think the reason it bugs me so much is that the address is their first initials with OUR last name! How presumptuous of her! The fact that he AGREED to that address just adds fuel to my fire, but I guess it was his "fog."

We talked last night when he got home from work, and while he is never one to say bad things about anyone, he did say that she is disgusting with her gestures (some pics on FB) and he cannot believe how stupid he was. She's not "him" and that I am way above her, etc., etc., etc. (Of course I thought of the thread "Honey, they ALWAYS affair down" and had to smile).

Anyway, I try to be a pretty upbeat person, but yesterday I was pushed to my limit. Thank you to all who responded. I'm glad you "got" what I was trying to say, because I'm sure it was very garbled, like my brain was yesterday.

((((Raven)))) Thanks for explaining the topic title, and yes it does make sense to me now.

I am glad you spoke to your husband. It sounds like he was able to give you the support you needed. That is good.

I didn't think your post was "garbled" either.

This probably the first post that really describes ow in my life. She's a guys girl, you know, loves sports, NASCAR, Jack Daniels, and porn. She has only one female friend, she prefers male company. She's kind of witty, smart ass, sarcastic. She is the complete opposite of myself. So.yea, your title is a perfect line for her and I may have to borrow it

Oh yea, no motorcycle but she's got the 4 wheel drive truck..

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 8:44 AM, November 6th (Wednesday)]