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hurtyetstrong
♀ 38372
Member # 38372

Posted: 5:03 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013

After months of going back and forth I left my husband today. Me and the kids are staying with my parents.

I talked about things last night, when I initially told him I didn't think we could work things out. Today I had him call me when he got off work so that I could read him a note I had written listing my reasons for leaving. After reading it, he proceeded to tell me why he thought we could still work it out and what he thought we needed to do to fix things.

We ended up being on the phone for 1.5 hours. I feel like he promised the moon and stars. But I doubt he will live up to it. For now I am committed to living separately - if there really will be R, he's going to have to show me he can fight for me.

I've seen this story before and I'm pretty sure I know the ending.

[This message edited by hurtyetstrong at 5:04 PM, November 5th (Tuesday)]

Me: BW (31)
Him: WH (32)
2 DDs - 4yrs & 2yrs (as of Oct 2014)

multiple PAs

Filed for divorce May 16, 2014
1st court hearing October 23, 2014 (rescheduled :/)
divorce final November 20, 2014

Posts: 157 | Registered: Feb 2013

sleepless34
♀ 40274
Member # 40274

Posted: 5:23 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013

Sending you support! Whatever will happen, will happen. Move forward with your plan, don't listen to any of his words. If his actions someday convince you otherwise, then great, but words are meaningless. You are doing the right thing!

Good luck

Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

Posts: 446 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Hell

rainagain
♀ 14917
Member # 14917

Posted: 7:58 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013

((((Hurt and kids)))

Now, faith is being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you cannot see. Heb 11:1
I done been through the pain and the sorrow the struggle is nothing but love. Maino
Me: Divorced BS 50
DS24, DD21, DS19

Posts: 1300 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Massachusetts

nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226

Posted: 9:03 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013

((((hurt & kids)))) Sending you strength, honey.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

Posts: 40228 | Registered: Aug 2011

brknwmn
♀ 40603
Member # 40603

Posted: 9:18 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013

sending so much love. this sounds exactly like my situation right now. you're not alone and you are strong! you were strong enough to get yourself and children out of a dysfunctional situation and you will continue to be strong no matter what direction you decide to go in.

Me: 26 BS Him: 29 WH
Together since Dec 2005
officially done 10-30-13

Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you.

Posts: 78 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: United States

SusanR
♀ 29368
Member # 29368

Posted: 4:57 AM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013

My husband is seeing an SA counselor and attending an addicted men's group once a week.

I think. I know he is capable of lying to me.

He has told me his goal is to get back together but he has not pressured me at all. I think he knows he is not trustworthy yet.

He has asked what it will take for me to take him back. I told him I don't know and I don't know if it's even possible.

Posts: 1968 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Midwest

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