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littlemrsV0813 (original poster new member #41148) posted at 12:25 AM on Wednesday, November 6th, 2013
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SorrowBhindSmile ( member #38139) posted at 1:39 AM on Wednesday, November 6th, 2013
(((((littlemrs)))))
I can very much relate. I have tried to force my brain into positive mode. Sometimes i am successful...sometimes, not so much. We have had quite a few dates tank due to wandering thoughts.
Maybe one thing you can do is to think of one really great, epic moment in your R journey. something that, regardless of the A, takes you to a very happy place in your mind. Maybe its a date, maybe its a specific act your WH did, or a gesture that meant the world to you. Write it down and carry it with you. When you need the positive reinforcement on those kinds of days, pull it out and read it. Let your mind go to that place instead.
hugs to you!
Me: BW
Him: WH
OW: My former "dear friend"/neighbor
Married 20+
Kids: 3
D-Day 12/2012
Committed to R 7/8/2013
"Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle"
fourever ( member #30631) posted at 1:51 AM on Wednesday, November 6th, 2013
I totally get it. The last advise was good. You also need to tell him how awful this makes you feel right now. It's too soon, and you haven't yet processed everything.
Give yourself time and tell him how you are feeling. You have to take the risk, to get past the hurt.
In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.
Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!
littlemrsV0813 (original poster new member #41148) posted at 2:34 AM on Wednesday, November 6th, 2013
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