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Can someone please explain hoovering?

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Tripletrouble posted 11/5/2013 20:16 PM

What is it and how do I recognize it? How do you Hoover proof yourself?

gonnabe2016 posted 11/5/2013 20:22 PM

It is basically when the WS love-bombs you and usually occurs when you are sending out the message that the WS just doesn't matter or that you are nearly *done*.

There are a couple of people that have really good articles regarding this. I'll pm one of them and see if she'll post it here for you.....

ThoughtIKnewYa posted 11/5/2013 22:44 PM

See if this helps:

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=480828

Kajem posted 11/5/2013 23:15 PM

Hoovering is manipulating behavior with the purpose of sucking you back in to their drama, way of thinking, views, control,etc. it undermines your independence in a 180 situation, so things go back to being status quo. Which is what the Hoover wants.

Hope this helps
Hugs
K

Kajem posted 11/5/2013 23:15 PM

Hoovering is manipulating behavior with the purpose of sucking you back in to their drama, way of thinking, views, control,etc. it undermines your independence in a 180 situation, so things go back to being status quo. Which is what the Hoover wants.

Hope this helps
Hugs
K

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