Decide what you need from them to stay in the marriage. Set your boundaries etc. Tell them what you need and if they are not willing to do that for you, then they are not remorseful. Start the process of getting out. Do not threaten unless you can follow through. Empty threats only strengthen your WH's belief that he can have it both ways.
Sorry for your pain. It DOES get better.BH 46
WW 38 (Lost94)
AP - friend of a friend of WW - complete stranger, predatory KISA
many DDays, primary 7/4/2012 and 8/10/2012
timeline of the highlights 11/1/2013
Holding on to hope.