Our first session obviously started with the reason we were there - my husband's ONS. But we only talked about that for around 10 mins and the rest was very general about our whole relationship. It was a fact finding session for the counsellor so I get that. And at the time I was pleased about it because I came away from it positive that we will be able to reconcile and generally have a better marriage and that it isn't ALL about the ONS.
But we have our second session tonight and I am feeling nervous as don't know what to expect. Will see ask me how I am feeling? I don't know where to start. Things in one sense are getting back to normal between us and in another sense are far from it. But I just don't know how to put it into words.
Should my husband and I be talking about what we might bring up in MC? We have had my parents staying with us for a week so we haven't talked about how things are so I feel like anything I say may come as a surprise as he may be thinking that things are getting sorted. Which they are - but maybe not as sorted as he thinks. So should things said in MC come as a surprise to either of us or should we know in advance?
I just don't know how these sessions will go now - I am worried that she may not even mention the ONS and may just continue on the general improving our marriage thing. Surely she will but as it wasn't the focus of the initial session I worry that she will have forgotten about it. So then it will be down to one of us to bring it up - and I am really not very good at talking about my feelings so I could easily not mention it if nobody else does, which is stupid I know. I seem to only be able to open up if I am asked a specific question - if my husband or she asks 'how are things' I am likely to just say 'OK'. Which isn't very true.
I am looking forward to the session in one respect as we haven't had any time to talk in the past week or so - but nervous about it because of the things I have mentioned and I just don't know what to expect.