D-Day - 10/22/2011
Wayward husband and other woman discussed in vivid detail their desires to have sex on two separate occasions. The first being the first night they spent together in a hotel. He claims that he used not having any condoms as an excuse when he was unable to achieve an erection with her! However, they were able to overcome that obstacle by going and purchasing some, yet he still was unable to achieve an erection. The second encounter in which they clearly planned to have sex....again in a hotel, he even brought along supplements to ensure he was able to achieve an erection. Yet,
still he brought no condoms. Easy fix, they headed to the closest store and purchased some! Unfortunately, he was still not able to achieve an erection with her!
What bothers me the most, is that he had every intention of having sex with her. He had no idea he would not be able to achieve an erection while with her ... hell he even took medication designed to make sure he was able to have an erection! So, obviously he had every intention of sleeping with her ... although he now believe the reason he did not come prepared with condoms is because he had a "thought or two that what he was doing was wrong" ( which I do not really believe) He has never ever enjoyed wearing condoms, and complains constantly when I asked him to use them !
What I can't get over, is the intent to have sex was very prevalent ... However, no attempt was made to protect me from any diseases or whatever the other woman has. I believe that he would have had sex without a second thought had he been able to get an erection. I honestly believe if he had been able to achieve an erection, he would have had sex with her regardless condom or not!
I find that very hard to accept . They planned, they discussed, they desired ... everything that they anticipated would happen between them on both occasions ! He was expecting to have sex with her, planning to have sex with her, he had no way of knowing he would not be able to have an erection ... especially during the first time! The second encounter he took measurements to ensure he would! Again, he had no knowledge that his taking supplements would be unsuccessful ... yet again he did not bring condoms!
The intent on these two occasions was very clear , they were definitely on the same page regarding what they wanted ! Had the circumstances not arrived , and he were able to achieve an erection... I 100 percent believe he would have had sex with her without a condom. He insists that he could never have done it, he claims she repulsed him... so after the first time he took additional steps to ensure he was able to have sex with her .Again, not knowing his attempt would be unsuccessful, yet still he did not bring condoms!
How do I move past the fact that he planned to have sex with somebody else unprotected!!! And, that in his own mind he honestly believes that something inside him told him it was wrong ....and that's why he didn't bring protection and why he couldn't get an erection!
I just can't buy that, WOULD YOU?
Married 5/29/2004 together 13years!
(Me)"I've been called worse"....
(WH)"Oh yeah, like what?"