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Williesmom posted 11/6/2013 07:21 AM

I have a huge garage that I rent out in the winter. During the summer, it is relatively empty. Here's my vent:

In May this year, my nephew finished college. Because I'm a nice aunt, I said that he could store some furniture in my garage. I specifically said that it needed to be gone by November. It's still here. It's not neatly stacked - it's all willy-nilly, taking up space. I have asked multiple times as to when it's going to go, with no good answer.

I have a good friend that buys and sells cars. Since July, there have been 2 cars that he bought that are taking up space in my garage. He doesn't want to park them outside, because they'll get mice in them. I told him that they need to be gone by November. They're still there.

This morning, one of my paying customers texted me that he'll be bringing his truck to be stored for the winter.Fine.

What chaps my ass is that I'll have to go home from work and shuffle couches and dead cars. The couches are going to be drug outside and burnt. Done, and God help the person that asks me where they went.

The cars will be pushed outside, and I'll just tell my friend that he needs to come get them.

Either way, I'll look like a bitch. Do these people realize that they're taking advantage of me?

There is one solution that will allow everyone's worthless crap to continue to be out of the weather: Park my $35,000 tractor outside. Not fucking happening.

God help these people today. I am not a happy girl.

It's just one more example of my being "nice" and people taking advantage of my good nature. Why then am I considered a bitch when I take control of a situation when I clearly told them that November was the deadline for resolution of all broken shit?

Chrysalis123 posted 11/6/2013 08:56 AM

You are not being a bitch, that is your wonky thinking taking over. I have a people pleasing problem too, that sometimes gets in my way.

View yourself as a business, which it is. maybe type up a form for all future renters, even if the rent is free. This form, or contract outlines the terms of the lease, and penalties that will happen if the terms are not followed.

Your "contract" could be delivered to your moochers now. Tell them you have a paying customers, and it is now time for them to go, unless they want to pay what your renter will pay.

if they don't move the stuff, charge them for your labor as you move their things outside, and also send them a letter clearly stating what you are doing, and that after a certain period of time their things will be donated.

You know, you might want to go to one of those storage places and take a look at their contracts!!

[This message edited by Chrysalis123 at 2:58 PM, November 6th (Wednesday)]

FaithFool posted 11/6/2013 08:59 AM

Three little words for next time:

"Sorry, it's rented."

Rainbows posted 11/6/2013 09:17 AM

I think once you throw their stuff outside they'll hurry up and get it. Or tell them it will be thrown outside on X date (so you don't have to do it).

There are some people who just push boundaries as far as they can in situations of goodwill like this. I'm not proud to say I've been on both sides of this coin (back in college) and my guess is they're being lazy.

Knowing you have to move your stuff means you have to find a new place for it, find a way to move it, plan a day to move it, etc. It's easier to play ostrich until you have to do something with it because of all the work involved.

Be firm and professional about it. No one will get their feelings hurt and you don't have to be a bitch. Chrysalis was right, view and treat it as a business and find a way to have them do the heavy lifting for you.

Williesmom posted 11/6/2013 09:41 AM

No. This shit is going outside today. No notice - their notice was given when it showed up by me saying "I need it out by November".

tushnurse posted 11/6/2013 11:17 AM

Nope not a doormat, and not a bitch.

I would call the kid, and say you got your last chance, and if you aren't here by 3 today I am burning it. Just cause he is a kid and is clueless.

I would also call the car guy, and let him know that his cars are going outside, and he is no longer welcome to store them, so don't ask. Or you can demand that when he leaves the cars he leaves the keys (something you should do anyway)

NO WAY that tractor should go outside. NOPE.
My Dad has several, and even the old ones are not going to sit outside. They are expensive, and they have to be properly sheltered.

Williesmom posted 11/6/2013 11:45 AM

The cars are dead. They don't run. He's just storing them at my house until he gets a chance to fix or dismantle them. They aren't large cars, so I'm used to pushing them around.

Ugh.

ThoughtIKnewYa posted 11/6/2013 13:51 PM

(((williesmom)))

I have a feeling that what you call a garage, we call a barn around here.

It's YOUR place and YOUR stuff takes priority over everyone else's stuff. Period.

miadianna posted 11/6/2013 15:00 PM

I've done the same thing.

Last October (2012) my brother asked if he could have his non-working older car towed to my driveway so he could work on it and get it going because it's an eyesore in his condo parking lot. I said "okay, sure." Well, it sat there all fall, winter, and summer 2013. I could never park my own car in my garage because it's blocking the entrance. My mom got upset with him and had him move the car into my garage to get it out of my driveway. My daughter and I helped him push it in the garage. I was under the impression he was going to work on it.

It's now been over a year, still sitting in my garage. He calls me periodically and says he is going to do something with it, but never does.

tushnurse posted 11/6/2013 15:43 PM

Oh Hell no Miad - Call the Salvation Army, or the Red Cross or some other charitable organization and set up a date and time to have it towed, then let your Bro know he needs to get it out by then, or you are sending it on its way.
(BTW they won't take it without the title)

UnexpectedSong posted 11/6/2013 21:28 PM

Wow, you're so nice. I don't even lend my pens.

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