I feel guilty for having it but don't know what to even do about it
If you want you could tell your SO you had a NIGHTMARE.
You can't control it.
But still--I get it. Having your sleep invaded with a bad dream make you wake up off-kilter.
I hope as yours gets going, other things will shift your perception of the day. It needn't be ruined.
"Do not say a little in many words but a great deal in a few." Pythagoras
There are two kinds of people in the world.
Those who can extrapolate from incomplete data.
Don't beat yourself up. That's not to suggest it isn't unsettling to wake up from one of those.
You came here, shared, and are in touch with the emotions.
That's healthy. Unsettling, unfun, but healthy.
Be gentle on yourself.
With respect to the dream...Forget about it! It just means your subconscious is struggling with the guilt. Instead, go think of something special or romantic you can do for your BS. That should help put your mind on the right track again.
[This message edited by HardenMyHeart at 8:48 AM, November 6th (Wednesday)]
I have a friend who believes strongly that dreams have meaning so I think that's what freaked me out.
Luckily my day has gotten better....its gorgeous and warm outside and I got good news from my boss so things are turning around! !!
I thanked him for coming to me and telling me about the dream. And then I told him that dreams are where you are supposed to work out your stressors, the things that are bothering you, and process feelings. The fact that he was hugely upset in his dream about lying and spent the rest of the dream fleeing from bad things told me that he's trying to process the why and internalize that it is a horrible thing. That you can't control your dreams. That I was really happy that in his dream that he mentally conjured up horrible things happening instead of life being all rosy and wonderful after lying.
And I think that's what you're doing. Processing. It's a necessary thing.
D-Day, June 10, 2012