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OldCow18 posted 11/6/2013 08:54 AM

Is this normal? I think I had 1 A related nightmare in the las 5 months, but in the last week I've had several and they left me waking up either scared or sobbing. Why now? Is this normal in the process?

Raven96 posted 11/6/2013 08:59 AM

I've had several in the last two weeks, and I'm 6 months out. I didn't have any before now. Oh, and he sleeps like a baby! I hope they go away for both of us soon!!!!

HeartInADustpan posted 11/6/2013 09:01 AM

I'm a year out and have them. Can't tell you when they started. I think mostly because for the first few months I didn't sleep enough to have dreams at all.

Tred posted 11/6/2013 09:01 AM

It was for me. I think the nightmares started a little later, at about 8 months out. Probably because I was still in shock. I still have them frequently, one of the reasons I'm still in therapy.

tushnurse posted 11/6/2013 09:04 AM

It was normal for me.

I think I was in so much of a fight/flight mode in the first few months that when I did finally sleep I didn't remember my dreams, and I am betting they were of happy things to give my brain a break.

I started having the nightmares at about 4-6 months, they were really bad for a 2 week period, waking up my H nightly sobbing in my sleep. I talked to my Dr, and switched up my bedtime routine, and took an ativan at bedtime, this allowed me to fall asleep easily, and calmed my mind. I never remembered my dreams when I took it, but I woke up feeling totally refreshed. I was UNWILLING to take Zolpidem, or Lunesta, as I had seen the crazy stuff it made people do while working in the hospital.

Rainbows posted 11/6/2013 09:06 AM

I'm plagued by nightmares and have discussed them at length with my dr and therapist.

I don't know your circumstances, but in my case, they were at their worst when I felt the most physically and emotionally vulnerable. It's the way my brain processes deep fears it can't control. My dr. said they would improve as I feel more safe and he was right.

They didn't start right away after my first dday. They started after I kept catching his TT, probably about 6 months in and lasted on and off for a couple of years.

I started having them right away after this dday in April. Although still happening, they are becoming less frequent (I moved out in August).

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