"You can't fix a broken man, but he can break you"
One thing that is in your favor is that he has confessed. I think that is a good sign. Be sure to check out the healing library in the yellow box in the upper left hand corner. Lots of good info there. And keep posting. It helps!
When another woman takes your husband,
sometimes the best thing you can do for
yourself is to LET HER HAVE him.
OC born 2001
Remarried 2008 (New Guy)
Welcome to the best club no one ever planned on joining. I am guessing since you have been lurking for a while that you have done some reading, in the illustrious Healing Library, if not please do so.
I also strongly urge you to do a couple of things right off the bat, and that is to see your Dr. Update them on the situation with home, so that your depression is treated appropriately during this shit storm. In addition to that get tested for STD's. The second thing I tell everyone to do as BS is to see a D attorney. Find out what your rights are, your childs rights are, and how this would all play out should things not go as planned. Knowledge is power, and fear of the unknown can paralyze us with fear.
keep posting, ask questions, and make yourself go down to Fun and Games at least once a week to get a giggle or two.
I broke up with him and now I am trying to heal.
Hurt me with the truth, but never comfort me with a lie.
The transference of checking up on you is not uncommon, please don't have a RA, that just makes a bigger mess of things, and shows that you are broken as well.
What is he doing to help you heal, to repair the M, and to fix himself?
It's good to have a friend that's a Lawyer, but until you have a real consultation you don't know where you stand really.
I am financially independed and our assets are very clear. According to my lawyer friend there won't be any problems with that.
My WH and I have discussed that if there would be a D instead of R I wouldn't hurt him by not letting him seeing our daughter, for her sake, not his.
I don't want to make a revenge affair, because it doesn't offer anything good to ME, plus I'm better than this, but I can't say that I don't enjoy his fear about that.