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steadfast1973 posted 11/6/2013 11:56 AM

After what I thought was 4 years of successful R. WS called me crying about an hour ago... then came home and told me "everything". I don't feel anything, yet. No. I am lying. I feel... relieved. I don't think I want to R, this time.

painfulpast posted 11/6/2013 12:07 PM

Im sorry does that say he slept with a prostitute yesterday?

ThoughtIKnewYa posted 11/6/2013 12:23 PM


steadfast1973 posted 11/6/2013 12:24 PM

Yes. Yesterday.

Kierst13 posted 11/6/2013 12:28 PM

He has kept you in false R for four years. He has lied about parts of himself to keep you from knowing he held onto the "high" of cheating until he could not say no to it any longer. He jumped from an EA (if he was honest the first time) straight to a PA with a prostitute. Hang on tight, there could be much more truth coming.

He has shown you who he is; believe him!

I am so sorry you are facing this again after what you believed to be successful R.

lieshurt posted 11/6/2013 12:30 PM

I'm very sorry hun.


steadfast1973 posted 11/6/2013 12:30 PM

It feels different than the last time. I am not angry. I am not sad. I am thinking of where I want me and my girls (10 and 12) to make our fresh start.

realitybites posted 11/6/2013 12:36 PM

WS called me crying about an hour ago..

Don't ya just love how they start crying when confessing? Like you are his parent or something.

There does come a time when you just KNOW you are done. You gave him 4 years. Priceless years.

painfulpast posted 11/6/2013 12:42 PM

(((((steadfast1973))))) I am so sorry you are hurting.

steadfast1973 posted 11/6/2013 12:51 PM

Maybe it's shock (since I got the truth all at once at lunchtime today). But I am not hurting. All I feel is relief. And that has me so confused.

tushnurse posted 11/6/2013 13:00 PM


It's ok to not feel. It's your brains way of keeping you safe. I can perfectly understand not wanting to R this go round.

I gave mine one shot, he ruins that he is gone. Or I am.

Perhaps you should start with a to do list.
1. Hefty bag his shit.
2. See a lawyer
3. Open a new bank account with just your name on it, and move half of all funds to it, it is yours.
4. Talk with him and figure out what you are going to tell the kids.
5. Make an appt to see the Dr, and get tested, and then to get any meds that you may need to navigate this.

We are here for you.
((((and strength))))

meplusfour posted 11/6/2013 13:11 PM

Be strong and have faith that you are making the right decision, whatever you decide.

lieshurt posted 11/6/2013 13:25 PM

All I feel is relief

That's what I felt when I was finally done.

megs56 posted 11/6/2013 13:42 PM

I am so sorry that you are dealing with this.


still2suspicious posted 11/6/2013 15:05 PM

Only you know when you are done.

And he will have NOTHING to say about it.


Truly posted 11/6/2013 15:11 PM

Oh. My. God.

I am so very, very sorry.

You feel relief? That may be because you now know it's time to move on.
This is my biggest fear. Yet another DD.

He is a cheat. It's his core competency. Believe him. And softly, but gently, the door closes.


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