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PricklePatch posted 11/6/2013 22:55 PM

Talked to long time less Dr for dd, he is in agreement his friend of 20 years is off base with his discussion of pots specialist. Odds doc said he looked at my research and checked with his out of state doc and felt better about dd pots doc. He also feels we should remove her gastro since a baby from her team. We are due to go to gastro. How do I handle this.

confused girl posted 11/7/2013 05:10 AM

I am a nurse so I thought I could help with your question but I can't follow your story.

Sorry..... Can you explain a bit more.

Lucky2HaveMe posted 11/7/2013 06:33 AM

I can't follow the story either. But in very simplistic terms - find your new Dr and then request all your files be transferred from the old office to the new. You don't owe an explanation if you don't want to give one. And if you feel you need to give an explanation, simply saying you don't think it's a good fit is sufficient.

tushnurse posted 11/7/2013 07:28 AM

It is tough to follow.

You need to get an adult GI dr for her?
But have an appt with the peds?
I would keep the appt with the peds unless he is prohibited from seeing her due to age (this all based on malpractice insurance).

If you have found another POTS Dr that seems better versed, and more apt to treat her appropriately than the one you saw, it's no big deal. Just call the office and cancel the appt, they may not even ask why, if they do, just let them know you found a dr that better suits your needs.

It's not a big deal.

PricklePatch posted 11/7/2013 14:13 PM

Sorry my computer crashed. So I am trying to make use of phone.

I took my dd to her pediatrician. After hospitalized this weekend 2hours away, at children's hospital of Philly. Her pediatrician finally gets why I don't agree with we long time pediatric gastro. Says to go to CHOP. She has an appointment sch. With the long term gastro and I just don't know what to say.

tushnurse posted 11/8/2013 07:51 AM

this is no biggie. You call and cancel the appointment. They most likely won't even ask why, remember it's not like you will be talking to the Dr on the phone. The office staff, may or may not even bother to tell him.

If you really want to let them know you are quitting due to whatever, then you can send them a kind letter in the mail. Simply state your appreciation for prior care, and that your Pediatrician, or whomever recommends that you see this Dr for her issues. That's it. If you are leaving due to how he treats your or your child, with personality, rudeness etc please send it to the senior MD int he group with specifying that reason. They don't get better unless someone speaks up. I have seen the patient speaking up make a difference though.

Believe me it happens all the time, and unless you have a very close relationship with this Dr they won't be upset.

HFSSC posted 11/8/2013 09:21 AM

I fired my ds's neurologist because of his attitude toward me. My son had been followed by the same neurologist since he had his first seizure at age 7, until the neurologist died suddenly when my ds was 17. One of his partners took over my son's care and I gave him 6 months. He seemed very threatened by the fact that I knew more about epilepsy than he did. Well, that's too bad. This is a patient to you, it's my son. Of course I am going to educate myself.

Anyway, after our last debacle of a conversation, I elected to drive almost an hour to the specialty clinic that had seen my son. I wrote a letter to the other doctor explaining my reasons and encouraging him to consider his approach and attitude when dealing with patients and their families. I don't know if it did any good or not, but it made me feel better to express myself.

PricklePatch posted 11/8/2013 16:31 PM

Thank you, they have called 2 times since I canceled.