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otherwoman2long posted 11/7/2013 15:10 PM

most of you will hate me but i didnt know where else to turn.

ive been the other woman for almost 5 years now. their marriage had been over for 6 years previous to that. no sex of any kind, didnt even share the same bedroom. roommates with kids basically. and i know this from mutual friends of hers...not from him.

all this time he's told me he was leaving and would file for divorce but he still has yet to do so. he's even recently moved in with me and my two teenagers who love him as if he was their real dad.

problem is, he's yet to introduce me to his kids. says they're not ready to meet me. i tell him he needs to just tell them and get it over and finished and be done with worrying about what they'll think. kids are 18 and 14, so old enough to know mom and dad hasnt had the typical marriage relationship. also old enough to know better and see what's going on.

yet, he wont tell her or the kids that he's living with me. is very secretive actually when he does talk/text with her.

do any of you know what type of app i could use to find out what they're talking about? we both have iphones.

painfulpast posted 11/7/2013 15:12 PM

This is a forum for people that just discovered that their spouse is having an affair with someone like you. There is another forum for waywards here.

Do not post in this forum again please.

otherwoman2long posted 11/7/2013 15:14 PM

wow! thanks.

stongmomof3 posted 11/7/2013 15:21 PM

If he's lying to her he's lying to you. Get your own fucking husband.

lieshurt posted 11/7/2013 15:22 PM

their marriage had been over for 6 years previous to that. no sex of any kind, didnt even share the same bedroom. roommates with kids basically. and i know this from mutual friends of hers...not from him.

No, their marriage hasn't been over. Nobody but the wife and the husband knows exactly what's been going on in their marriage. They still live together as a family, so you had no right to involve yourself in their relationship.

all this time he's told me he was leaving and would file for divorce but he still has yet to do so.

LOL...he's been using you and you allowed him to. You were a convenience who gave him the ego strokes he wanted to make himself feel better. If he wanted to divorce his wife, he would have a long time ago.

i tell him he needs to just tell them and get it over and finished and be done with worrying about what they'll think. kids are 18 and 14

You have no right to tell anybody how to parent their kids, especially given you've helped destroy their family. Given you've moved a married man into your home and involved him with your own children, you are in no place to give anybody else parenting advice.

You are just trying to push him to make your relationship "legitimate". Well, sorry hun, that's never going to happen. You will always be the "other woman", whether he ever divorces or not.

do any of you know what type of app i could use to find out what they're talking about? we both have iphones.

Really? Are you afraid he's doing to you what he did with you? You should be.

[This message edited by lieshurt at 3:23 PM, November 7th (Thursday)]

Deeply Scared posted 11/7/2013 15:23 PM

This forum is strictly for BS's only...I'll move this thread to the WS Forum.

Please note this thread is now closed off to BS replies.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 3:25 PM, November 7th (Thursday)]

otherwoman2long posted 11/7/2013 15:25 PM

Inappropriate reply.

You don't belong here.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 3:30 PM, November 7th (Thursday)]

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