FWH has to supervise former AP at work (it's a long story as to why he can't leave and she either can't or won't). H apologized to her for his deplorable behavior in engaging in an A with her then told her he's going back to his wife and kids and wants nothing to do w her. She took many days off work after that, leaving the office in tears. H was nearly suicidal when he confessed to me and has been and is in IC and MC.
H says he only discusses work related issues with her. I have access to all phone records and work related emails and she knows that I read them.
I want to know what it is like for the FWH to have to continue to relate to a former AP.
H's best friend says H is disgusted with her now that he's over his MLC and the rose colored glasses have fallen from his eyes. BF says I have nothing to worry about.
H says he never intended to leave me or marry her even telling her to not plan her life around him! (and she stayed in the relationship?! Whatever!)
H says he doesn't find her attractive and has even discussed with me some of her personal flaws. I believe him but I still want to understand what he experiences every day having to see her! One time when I asked he said she was a daily reminder of guilt and regret but once you've been physically intimate with someone don't you always have some form of fondness for them?
Can anyone help? Particularly interested in hearing from FWSs